attracted a girl but somehow could not hold it up

[encantador]

Hey guy would like to get some advice from you
There is a real hottie in my school but she is one class below me. I recently met her in a bar. Since I am from Europe it is allowed to drink:cheer: at my age. We talked quite a while and everything went well. She even invited me to come to some privat place in the bar which pretty much meant that she wanted to make out with me. But I was a dumbass and said when the next drink comes we will go . Turned out that we did not go and the bar closed. However I had her number. Couple of days later we bumed into each other in a different bar (small town)and I said to myself today Iam gonna have her since she was quite flirting with me the other day. Got her isolated from her friends but a randomly guy starts to talk to her but i notice she is just playing with him because we was stupid. Nevertheless I was not paciently and put my arms around her to get rid of him. Turned out that it was a mistake. Well we sended a couple of messages back and forth . One of the messages was a blow though because she said she doesnt want to have a boyfriend at this point of her life. I wrote her somthing back like when girls dont make out with the guy on their second meeting girls tend to think to much and she call me but i was at the cinema with friends so i couldnt talk. I wrote back a message where i was saying that i call her within a couple of days didnt do it though. Seen her at school and she glanced at me but somehow dont have a good feeling what can i do to score ?? Heard that she meanwhile had a other guy well had two different girls too. So what can I do since she is a real hottie!

 

[encantador]

To the last sentence just make out so nothing serious

 

[jonwon]

This is what you do:

Since I cant read your thread that well, I will put in what I think you are stating.

A: you have her number and promised to call, but never did as you bottled out.
B: She says she does not want a BF, I am uncertain at this stage if this is the truth since you playing a very loose game and she maybe saying it to not scare you off.
C: you have had opportunities to move in on this girl and the only time you do it is when you think she is coming onto another guy.

1: your game is weak, not only did you not escalate the situation that presented itself to you, you actually scuttled it and made it worse.
2: your only motivation to game this chick was when she was showing attention for another guy, this was a huge mistake, it showed her you are jealous and your not even dating, it illustrates control and this level when not even going out with her reads bad news.
3: you have had countless opportunities to contact this girl and take it further, you have failed to follow it up and no I don’t buy the excuses you are posting about cinema too loud or some other BS.

What does this point to.

It points to you not having the balls to see this through, but lacking the confidence to let it go as in only acting on jealousy and not acting like a cool guy with options.

I am not sure if I want to give you tips, you have a long way to go, I would start reading the DJ bible for a start then try other girls.

In the meantime if you do want to try one more time with this chick, then I would advise you to get your As8 on the phone and ask her out for a date, its not really brain surgery is it?

Get her rang up and ask her if she wants to catch a film or some other shi*.

Stop being a wimp who only acts out of jealousy and fear.