Attention wh0res, how do you deal with them?

[sharpshooter]

Now there's this girl in one of my classes that four guys are competing for.... at the same time! They hover around her etc, and try to impress her in different ways etc. Sometimes they give her so much attention that she starts rolling her eyes. She doesn't seem to have too many female friends at school at all. Sometimes she yells out funny/questionable answers to get attention. Oh, and she wore a g-string under her tight pants to class on the first day and sat beside me. I asked her if it was her first day of class and she said yeah. Really flirty, then she had to move up a few rows because she couldn't see the board. Since then, she's been the object of desire for those 4 dudes competing for her. I really haven't cared.

Now I've been getting quite a lot of looks from her lately, mostly because i'm one of the only attractive guys that seems to NOT give a **** about her. Anyways, I had the perfect chance to really introduce myself and get to know her today, but I just let it slide for some reason. She was laying on a bench in the cafe, and I saw her at the last second after a huge crowd dissapeared infront of me. As soon as she saw me she popped up and started to fix her hair etc. Guess both of us were surprised. I don't know why I didn't approach her, everything happened in a milisecond and I just kept walking (wanted to meet my friend at the gym). Only a couple minutes later did I realize that was the perfect chance. So I went back to check if she would still be there, and she was gone. Anyways, is there any way that this could be a good thing? (since she's an attention *****). The worst case scenario is her thinking i'm not interested. She knows i'm not a boring guy or shy, because i'm pretty vocal and fun in class. Maaaaybe it'll give her the impression that i'm not gonna follow on like the other guys in that class and let her leech off of me.

any insight would be appreciated

 

[SpeedRunner]

I dont know... I dont **** with those types of girls

 

[belividere]

Why is she an attention *****? If she is a good looking girl than she will get hit on by all the guys in class. Just because people get attention doesn't qualify them as attention *****s.

As for your question it seems like she is interested in you. Go for it. Walking by once might have made her more interested it also might have made her think you just aren't interested. You really cant wait around much longer. Especially if she is getting on all the time. She will probably soon just write you off.

 

[sharpshooter]

Originally posted by belividere
Why is she an attention *****? If she is a good looking girl than she will get hit on by all the guys in class. Just because people get attention doesn't qualify them as attention *****s.

As for your question it seems like she is interested in you. Go for it. Walking by once might have made her more interested it also might have made her think you just aren't interested. You really cant wait around much longer. Especially if she is getting on all the time. She will probably soon just write you off.

You really cant wait around much longer.

yeah, I never see her around campus..only in class, so that's why i'm kicking myself for missing such a perfect chance. oh well...hopefully she's around the same spot next time

 

[FrankWank]

Once you find out, they are........you MOVE ON and never look back, unless your tappin that azz. If not, stop wasting your time

 

[dearsappho]

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=55343&perpage=20&pagenumber=1

 

[Mike_The_Man]

I had no idea how pervasive this problem is.............

 

[Mike_The_Man]

Move on and do not look back sharpshooter! You are in for a world of hurt otherwise......

 

[Dapper Swindler]

Originally posted by sharpshooter
Now I've been getting quite a lot of looks from her lately, mostly because i'm one of the only attractive guys that seems to NOT give a **** about her.

Exactly.

Continue to resist giving her attention, even if it risks showing her you're not interested and she might pursue someone else. (oh well, you don't need an attention wh*** that much anyway)

I think you should talk to her, but not give her attention. Talk to her in a way that makes you entirely unimpressed with her, even disinterested.

Maybe talk to her about another girl in the class that you think is cute. I'd like to know what she does if you do this.

 

[Fatality]

Re: Re: Attention wh0res, how do you deal with them?

Originally posted by Dapper Swindler
Exactly.

Continue to resist giving her attention, even if it risks showing her you're not interested and she might pursue someone else. (oh well, you don't need an attention wh*** that much anyway)

I think you should talk to her, but not give her attention. Talk to her in a way that makes you entirely unimpressed with her, even disinterested.

Maybe talk to her about another girl in the class that you think is cute.

How is he supposed to go out with her if he acts like this? How do you win over an AW once you give her attention? It sounds like she likes him but what can he do wrong to lose her interest?

 

[-HPNOTIQ-]

CONFIDENCE...CONFIDENCE...CONFIDENCE

Its the weapon that deflects the arrows of AW. Actually, the arrows aren't even fromt the AW. It will come from c*ckblockers, haters, AMOGs and other peeps who will try to get into your head and f*ck with your relationship and chances with this girl.

I agree with the poster above though. Getting attention from guys doesn't qualify her as an AW. SEEKING attention from other guys does!

Either way. Treat this girl like any other. Keep busy with your things, ie school, family, friends, sports..etc.

The more you are clingy and available to this chick, the more she'll clump you into that group of guys that are ALWAYS hitting on her.

Next time you see her have an opener similar to this.

"Hey stranger. Wow, I'm so busy with school and work that I rarely see you around. Hey, the quarter is about to end. (Whips out handy cell phone and hands it to the girl) key in your number and we'll go hit up that new Wil Smith movie when finals are done. We'll both be less busy then. We'll make it a celebration that the quarter is over."

Simple, direct, not needy, to the point, convenient, and an offer that is nearly impossible to say no to. And you ALREADY assumed that she is interested. A move those other 4 guys wouldnt DARE dream of.

Even if she says no to the offer, for whatever reason...you STILL GOT THE DIGITS, you can set up a date - ON YOUR TERMS - whenever you feel now.

But a word of caution on dating extremely hot women that always get attention. THE SECOND you break confidence, become insecure, and are bothered by the fact other guys will try to f'K up your relationship...she'll drop you in a heartbeat.

 

[sharpshooter]

Originally posted by -HPNOTIQ-
CONFIDENCE...CONFIDENCE...CONFIDENCE

Its the weapon that deflects the arrows of AW. Actually, the arrows aren't even fromt the AW. It will come from c*ckblockers, haters, AMOGs and other peeps who will try to get into your head and f*ck with your relationship and chances with this girl.

I agree with the poster above though. Getting attention from guys doesn't qualify her as an AW. SEEKING attention from other guys does!

Either way. Treat this girl like any other. Keep busy with your things, ie school, family, friends, sports..etc.

The more you are clingy and available to this chick, the more she'll clump you into that group of guys that are ALWAYS hitting on her.

Next time you see her have an opener similar to this.

"Hey stranger. Wow, I'm so busy with school and work that I rarely see you around. Hey, the quarter is about to end. (Whips out handy cell phone and hands it to the girl) key in your number and we'll go hit up that new Wil Smith movie when finals are done. We'll both be less busy then. We'll make it a celebration that the quarter is over."

Simple, direct, not needy, to the point, convenient, and an offer that is nearly impossible to say no to. And you ALREADY assumed that she is interested. A move those other 4 guys wouldnt DARE dream of.

Even if she says no to the offer, for whatever reason...you STILL GOT THE DIGITS, you can set up a date - ON YOUR TERMS - whenever you feel now.

But a word of caution on dating extremely hot women that always get attention. THE SECOND you break confidence, become insecure, and are bothered by the fact other guys will try to f'K up your relationship...she'll drop you in a heartbeat.

sounds good. One of them asked her out to drinks during class infront of all the other ones that are after her, it was funny seeing the reaction on the other guys haha...i don't think anything came from that though.

 

[tyciol]

Originally posted by belividere
Why is she an attention *****? If she is a good looking girl than she will get hit on by all the guys in class. Just because people get attention doesn't qualify them as attention *****s.

If you read his entire article, you'd see mention of her calling out absurdities, incessantly flirting and wearing slutty clothing for attention, making her , in all likelyhood, an attention *****.

 

[undesputable]

How do you deal with attention *****s? Well easy, depending on what you want, either give them what they want, or dont give them what they want which is attention.

Now your figuere out whats going to happen if you do give them the attention they want, or you dont.

 

[belividere]

If you read his entire article, you'd see mention of her calling out absurdities, incessantly flirting and wearing slutty clothing for attention, making her , in all likelyhood, an attention *****.

Yes I read it all.

She shouts out stuff in class. She might actually just think she is smart or funny. Not really a big seller on being a true AW. And she wore a thong under tight jeans. From my experiences like 8/10 girls wears thongs. And the guys who hit on her are giving her the attention whether she wants it or not.

The reality of life is that hot girls get attention from guys all the time. If you want a hot girlfriend then expect that everytime she walks out the door she is probably going to hit on. Hypnotiq is right you need confidence, but I would say not only when it comes to an AW but also when it comes to dating hot girls in general.

She just sounds like a hot girl with bad eyesight who dresses typical of most college girls and has a loyal fan club of chumps who drool over her. But then again I've never seen her and everything is relative so what do I know.