She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
as well as most of the things myfriendblu wrote. Including but not limited to:Originally posted by DJDamage
AW's are attracted to males like regular women. However their prefrences tend to be more shallow then most women . . . everything after that is secondary to them.
It is not painful for me to accept that a lot of women see me as a threat, because I have that knack to relate to men on a level other than sexual.
---The fact that you belive that other women see you as a threat is a characteristic that attention whor es have
we're probably some of the coolest chicks you'd ever meet. End story.
-----Doubt that. Single moms and attention whor es aren't my cup of tea. Maybe someone elses?
Looking closely at this, she could have made a simple statement ON TOPIC that attention whqres block other women. That's a pretty self-explanatory statement. Instead, she included a detailed, OFF TOPIC and unsolicited story both about some guy you don't give two sh!ts about and a woman who was SEEMINGLY intimdated by her. The story is told in such a way that it doesn't out-right say, "I'm hot" but it very strongly implies it. In fact, it goes a step further and implies, "not only am I hot, but I'm way hotter than that other girl."Originally posted by ShortyBrown
To get back to the original arguement, Another popular trait of the attention w-hore is blocking other women. Example:
I was out at a club on Saturday night with a bunch of friends. I spent a lot of the night sticking close to one guy, who I am a little sweet on,but wasn't with him all the time.At one point, we were all sitting on the couch and this other chick comes and sprawls herself on his lap, as if to say, "he's mine." (I was sitting opposite them.I didn't give a s-hit either way.) this "woman" made no attempt to speak to me, or be friendly in anyway. She also stuck to his side all night I noticed, while I explored the club with our other friends and checked in with him regularly. I could've been sure that she'd be pissed off when he stuck his hand up my shirt when we hugged goodbye, but when she parked herself in another lap, I figured she'd be OK.
Interesting point.Originally posted by Mix
Checking back through the thread I see that ShortyBrown gave a perfect example of what I was talking about in her post:
Looking closely at this, she could have made a simple statement ON TOPIC that attention whqres block other women. That's a pretty self-explanatory statement. Instead, she included a detailed, OFF TOPIC and unsolicited story both about some guy you don't give two sh!ts about and a woman who was SEEMINGLY intimdated by her. The story is told in such a way that it doesn't out-right say, "I'm hot" but it very strongly implies it. In fact, it goes a step further and implies, "not only am I hot, but I'm way hotter than that other girl."
This is a classic "attention whqre" story.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.