a lot of guys have a hard time understand what the attention ***** thing is all about. as in, why so many women seem to be about getting attention.
to perhaps help bridge the gap i thought id expound quickly.
the attention ***** behavior is no different than the ego ***** behavior most men exhibit. many men throw reason out the window and are solely focused on being seen as powerful and accomplished by other people. they will lie through their teeth and brag about accomplishments they never acheived just so that peopel will think they are a big shot.
i see it every day at work. most men lack humility.
the psychological reasons that these men behave like that are the same factors that drive women to seek attention.
women gain no increased sense of self esteem by being seen as powerful and accomplished. for a woman its about being seen as desireable.
just like a man who bullsh*ts his 'resume' to be seen as powerful, a woman will pull all kinds of bullsh*t to increase the amount a man 'desires' her.
its all tied back to low self esteem. if you have high self esteem you dont go around trying to convince people you have value - becuase you know you do.
you dont play silly little games to mess with someones mind so that they become obsessive / needy with you.
a lot of people think that its all about the challenge. that men and women love a challenge. i dont think thats it at all.
i think a woman gets a rush out of the process of create 'desire' in a man. because in that process her 'ego' is stroked - her low self esteem gets a boost.
but once she catches him things kind of plateau. in fact, she actually starts to lose ground as he moves beyond the illusion shes create and more into the reality.
this is why so many women are steaming hot only to eventually turn ice cold over night. what's happened is that she realizes she created as much desire in you for her as she can and that now your going to start to see the real her. fear of confronting a decreased sense of self value, she cuts you loose and starts the process over with a new guy.
you see this often in men as well, but more ego based. they play the big swinging ****, catch the girl, everythings great. but as time goes on she starts to get to know the guy more, at which point he comes up with reasons for why things arent going to work.
anyway, we often trash attention *****s, but there are plenty of ego *****s in the male population.
both camps share the same trait of living in an illusion.
every happy couple ive ever seen is comprised of both a man and a woman who are both down to earth and real. they have no desire to be intrinsicely better than anyone else, and they dont care what others really think about them.
to perhaps help bridge the gap i thought id expound quickly.
the attention ***** behavior is no different than the ego ***** behavior most men exhibit. many men throw reason out the window and are solely focused on being seen as powerful and accomplished by other people. they will lie through their teeth and brag about accomplishments they never acheived just so that peopel will think they are a big shot.
i see it every day at work. most men lack humility.
the psychological reasons that these men behave like that are the same factors that drive women to seek attention.
women gain no increased sense of self esteem by being seen as powerful and accomplished. for a woman its about being seen as desireable.
just like a man who bullsh*ts his 'resume' to be seen as powerful, a woman will pull all kinds of bullsh*t to increase the amount a man 'desires' her.
its all tied back to low self esteem. if you have high self esteem you dont go around trying to convince people you have value - becuase you know you do.
you dont play silly little games to mess with someones mind so that they become obsessive / needy with you.
a lot of people think that its all about the challenge. that men and women love a challenge. i dont think thats it at all.
i think a woman gets a rush out of the process of create 'desire' in a man. because in that process her 'ego' is stroked - her low self esteem gets a boost.
but once she catches him things kind of plateau. in fact, she actually starts to lose ground as he moves beyond the illusion shes create and more into the reality.
this is why so many women are steaming hot only to eventually turn ice cold over night. what's happened is that she realizes she created as much desire in you for her as she can and that now your going to start to see the real her. fear of confronting a decreased sense of self value, she cuts you loose and starts the process over with a new guy.
you see this often in men as well, but more ego based. they play the big swinging ****, catch the girl, everythings great. but as time goes on she starts to get to know the guy more, at which point he comes up with reasons for why things arent going to work.
anyway, we often trash attention *****s, but there are plenty of ego *****s in the male population.
both camps share the same trait of living in an illusion.
every happy couple ive ever seen is comprised of both a man and a woman who are both down to earth and real. they have no desire to be intrinsicely better than anyone else, and they dont care what others really think about them.