"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Attention Seekers give me Oneitis

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I dont know why but i just dont get into normal shy gals and i get really into Attention seekers!

3 in the past year or so have given me bad oneitis here is a lil about them all

1st one i met through a best friend, he really liked her and she didnt like him like that, i knew i couldnt do anything coz of my mate but every chat i had with her and every time i hanged out with her i got more and more into her! This was the gal who made me find this site! I was a major afc then even gave her a teddy bear for her birthday present despite her telling me she didnt want a present!

2nd gal i met through a friend also but the friend was a she this time, so it was possible for something to happen. She had a bf at first so i didnt take an intrest but after she and him broke up i swooped in! Got on with her really well, but because of distance we couldnt meet up much and because of our mutual friend, when we did she had to be there! She told me things like "the balls in your court" and that we had some great late night chats and we were into each other, but when i went for the kill she came up with reasons such as "dont want a serious relationship after the last" and an obvious one which i agreed with "dont want to ruin a friendship with a relationship that wouldnt work coz of distance" were still friends now but she has a bf and ive realised that she used me for attention and to help get over her ex

3rd gal - well she has a bf, shes flakey and classic attention seeker, yet i still keep giving her attention and im heading fast for the just friend zone, at the start i thought she was actually intrested in me, but tbh last couple of weeks its obvious now shes an attention seeker

ive no problem getting other gals, but tbh there no fun, i like the challenge and the chase i think, its crazy! and so annoying coz i get oneitis and depressed about these gals!

any help will be greatly appreciated

cheers
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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You don't like these chicks brah. You like the idea of being with them. You think they're on a higher social level then you and want to hit them up for the respect you'd get.

Stop playing games.
 

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Originally posted by Q-Unit
You don't like these chicks brah. You like the idea of being with them. You think they're on a higher social level then you and want to hit them up for the respect you'd get.

Stop playing games.
Probably true, apart from the 2nd gal (who i actually loved talking too) the other gals especially the first are kinda boring and the 3rd gal doesnt take any risks nor likes to do what i like to do, which is kinda boring!

how do i stop these games being played tho?
 

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Get a girl you actually like on a less than social level. Go for looks, personnality, or something that actually matters. Don't judge women by anything other than the standard by which you rate women as attractive. When you find one you want - go for it.

And for god sake stop giving the AW's your attention! :D
 

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Originally posted by Q-Unit
Get a girl you actually like on a less than social level. Go for looks, personnality, or something that actually matters. Don't judge women by anything other than the standard by which you rate women as attractive. When you find one you want - go for it.

And for god sake stop giving the AW's your attention! :D
Ha ha easier said than done, i just get sucked in by them! i dont know why!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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