Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
It is not congruent to a stoic person nature to do this. This is why really true and rare men who do not have this "make a fantasy for her" behaviour, have low chance of keeping LTR's if they encounter the common women. I do also think there is the exception of a women who doesn't need that as much as other.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
this doesn't mean that the more rational guy is wrong, is in his nature to behave like that, kinda more rational and logical, more masculine.
Oh. this happened many times to me. I am mostly quiet and rational and usually women would try to fill and I can also hear they get nervous or their breathe its like they're running. (the last thing happened me more than 10 times with 3 different women).
This advice is not only for women, but can be broadened to apply to people of any gender.