attention from girls

[david90]

I get none whatsoever. I do get quick looks but that is it. I can't remember when the last time a girl init. convo with me. The only time I talk to a girl is when I init the conversation. I'm 22 and never have never been out on a date. I'm a pretty normal nice guy but apparently people don't care about that. It seems to me that people only care about my connections. People don't talk to me unless they see that i'm talking to somebody popular or an hb. In other words social proof.

I read posts from this site and the guys on here seems to be get attention from girl even if they are AFCs. I get none whatsoever.

I thought about my girl problem and i think it is my looks. My personality is normal and is like everybody else. I'm not weird or a psychotic. I'll post pics if u want.

Anyway what should I do? I did for a while read articles from this site and did some approaches but i feel like it's not working.

 

[muttley]

post pics and we will try our best to help you dude. We can give u tips if you want

 

[Dimebag_Darrell]

you see you just answered your own question David,...re read what you've typed and read it again and if you are in any way of the intelligent breed of human rather than the knowledgeable, you will know exactly what I am talking about, or rather what you're stating.........

 

[Soprano]

Alright, most girls don't go around checking out every guy they see.... they don't turn there head if they see someone who might be a little bit attractive.... it's not like in the movies or in the TV commercials...

trust me, I've worked as a bouncer at a club and I've seen hours and hours and hours of men trying to get women's attention by standing around and "looking sexy"... it don't work like that man. Also, looks, I've also seen some ugly motha****as with some pretty hot girls... they likely spend lots of time on this site

ive seen broke-ass, eatin cracker crumbs outta between the couch coushions, ****ed up tennis shoe, too lazy to get a job dudes with girls.. ive seen piss-yellow teeth dudes with girls....i've seen fatasses who don't care about their lives with hot girls....

Your attitude reminds me of mine back when I was depressed and blah blah -- dont worry about steppin looks up (as long as u take care of yourself), just step your attitude game up...

 

[Dimebag_Darrell]

See, soprano is correct in a sense..But he's not answering your feeble question.

You see, your perception of your strengths is what weakens you to such level of confusion my son...

 

[muttley]

Originally posted by Dimebag_Darrell
See, soprano is correct in a sense..But he's not answering your feeble question.

You see, your perception of your strengths is what weakens you to such level of confusion my son...

explain that for us

 

[Alphathree]

Think of a room full of guys... who would you talk to? The one by himself, or the one with the crowd around him?

Make a bunch of friends... talk to everybody.... women will approach you.

Also, keep your body language open-- feet spread out, arms always at your side, don't wag your hands when you talk, walk in long, easy strides, speak slowly and deeply, ask others about themselves or the world around them but don't talk about yourself much or at all ...

This has NOOOOOOOOTHING to do with looks. The whole game has NOTHING to do with looks. Make sure you smell good and your hair is trimmed and your clothes look nice. And try to stay within a reasonable body weight -- especially if you're fat. But don't stress about you looking "hot" in the same way that a girl might look "hot" to a guy.

 

[PRMoon]

Originally posted by Soprano
trust me, I've worked as a bouncer at a club and I've seen hours and hours and hours of men trying to get women's attention by standing around and "looking sexy"... it don't work like that man. Also, looks, I've also seen some ugly motha****as with some pretty hot girls... they likely spend lots of time on this site

ive seen broke-ass, eatin cracker crumbs outta between the couch coushions, ****ed up tennis shoe, too lazy to get a job dudes with girls.. ive seen piss-yellow teeth dudes with girls....i've seen fatasses who don't care about their lives with hot girls....

Your attitude reminds me of mine back when I was depressed and blah blah -- dont worry about steppin looks up (as long as u take care of yourself), just step your attitude game up...

What club did you work at? Girls check out guys as much as the converse where I live for sure. Hell I personally see girls checking out myself and my crew ona a regualar basis. Yeah I've seen the rest of that stuf you mentioned too but those people are few and far between in close contrast to the number of overall attractive couples I see walking around. You should at least try to dress to impress and keep yourself looking somewhat good. If you don't pay attention to how you look then there's little chance anyone else will either.

 

[Dimebag_Darrell]

I shall explain..

You see, he is viewing his strength which is social proof as a bad thing because supposedly the girls aren't paying enough attention to him.. They aren't using you, you simply aren't using time, observation and your unique personality to your advantage and therefore you are not applying yourself david. In other words like a dog, you r keen sense of smell takes you to the desired meat but you don't know how to open your mouth(strength, social proof) and attain what you want which is to satisfy your hunger(sexual desire for her).

 

[chancer]

"My personality is normal and is like everybody else"... So why should girls randomly come up and pick you out of the many normal everyday personalities?

In general, you need to get in the mind set of initiating conversation yourself. Why wait? You probably don't look like you want to be approached. Someone who wants to be approached smiles, looks like they want to chat it up, and will initiate convo period.

Do you want the girls to ask for your number too? call and set up a date with that? you initiate. Be a leader. Don't wait around.

 

[chancer]

nice Dimebag...
Apply yourself!

 

[Dimebag_Darrell]

happy halloween

 

[david90]

Originally posted by chancer
"My personality is normal and is like everybody else"... So why should girls randomly come up and pick you out of the many normal everyday personalities?

In general, you need to get in the mind set of initiating conversation yourself. Why wait? You probably don't look like you want to be approached. Someone who wants to be approached smiles, looks like they want to chat it up, and will initiate convo period.

Do you want the girls to ask for your number too? call and set up a date with that? you initiate. Be a leader. Don't wait around.

I remember you. R u doing better?

 

[Soprano]

Originally posted by PRMoon
What club did you work at? Girls check out guys as much as the converse where I live for sure. Hell I personally see girls checking out myself and my crew ona a regualar basis. Yeah I've seen the rest of that stuf you mentioned too but those people are few and far between in close contrast to the number of overall attractive couples I see walking around. You should at least try to dress to impress and keep yourself looking somewhat good. If you don't pay attention to how you look then there's little chance anyone else will either.

It's either the 2nd or 3rd hottest club in the city right now, I'd say.... Needless to say the niggas with the ****ed up tennis shoes didn't get in.

Anyway, the point of the post was, that while there are hot girl/hot guy (no homo) couples, there are just as many others who have pulled it off by mastering their brain.

Also, if you're fat, work out and get in some sort of shape other than soft and giggly. You don't need to lose a ton of weight and get all slim like, but of course it is good to lose weight for health reasons and confidence if you feel you need it.

The point is, it's easy to tell the difference between the athletic fat dude, and the lazy ass eatin mcdonalds 5 times a week fat dude.

If you take care of yourself it shows, whether you're fat and ugly or not.

 

[chancer]

lol really? yeah. I'm way more comfortable with women now. I come and go from time to time taking breaks. The reason i'm back is because this girl i'm really interested in has been chasing me around. So i want to fine tune my game and if she's cool, i'm going to invite her out to a formal dinner i'm going to.

 

[david90]

Originally posted by muttley
post pics and we will try our best to help you dude. We can give u tips if you want

here's my pic
http://pix2.hotornot.com/pics/HR/HU/HQ/NS/OEA8NRNSHBPM.jpg

 

[david90]

Originally posted by chancer
lol really? yeah. I'm way more comfortable with women now. I come and go from time to time taking breaks. The reason i'm back is because this girl i'm really interested in has been chasing me around. So i want to fine tune my game and if she's cool, i'm going to invite her out to a formal dinner i'm going to.

Wow nice work. I remembered reading some of your posts and how hopeless u were. U were probably the most depressed person on this forum.

 

[chancer]

don't confuse me with chancer357

 

[DJ Alejandro]

you need to re-examine yourself. your perception.

too normal maybe.. you need to stand out. and besides, attraction is subjective. its not dictated by having this or that. but rather, just at least try to make yourself presentable. and all will follow.

some guys may have given the same advice. havent really read theirs yet.

gotta go.

 

[bbestar]

I have an philippino bud of mine who had semi success with the ladies then had blonde highlights put on his hair...

his success skyrocketed

Go to more parties bud

First of all do everything you can to make yourself look attractive, with out wearing Godam pink... Get a girl to fit cloths for you and get a new hair style... Exercise, do weights.. wear slacks with a coat

Once you do that, You have to have the mentality of NOT CARING... You don't care what anybody thinks of you... They Don't have to like you..

You get my vibe son