Originally posted by thefonz
Don Juanabe, I'm captivated by this theory
SO basically you're saying to give in to the AW ways and fall for her as an afc would. At just the right moment in time you turn the tables on her by sort of avoiding her advances towards you nad give attention to other girls (or people) in her presence.
My question: When she finally starts to get frustrated at you for not giving her the attention she wants.....what do you do then? She's only invested time in you for the attention and will give you the red octogon when you start giving the attention AGAIN. You'll just be back where you started.....how are you supposed to play it from here? Is it just a matter of getting her in a vulnerable position so you can work your dj magic?
The bible says AW are only gained by ignoring them from the begining or should be flat out nexted so i'm interested in your take on this.
I think I've mentioned before how I dealt with the last AW in my life, but I'll reiterate it, because it worked.
I had one on my case several months back, whom at first, I paid zero attention to.
She then started droppings hints like she was interested. Going out of her way to get my attention with compliments, staring directly into my eyes, even taking me out to drinks. She started saying how she was just coming out of a realtionship and she wasn't ready for anything too heavy yet, but then would behave the complete opposite.
I ended up fooling around with her a little, but she would push me away any time it got heavy, reiterating that she wasn't ready for a relationship, but then acting all interested and touchy to get me going again. Real push pull stuff here.
When I got her phone number, I called three times, and the first two times were lame excuses to not get together. She then started to push and pull me, which actually began working, until I figured out just how full of sh*t she was. I also caught her in several blatant lies.
The third time I phoned her, she didn't even answer the phone, so I didn't bother leaving a message and threw away her number, and never called her again, but of course, I saw her all the time as we hung out at the same place and I also frequented the establishment that she worked at.
This got her even more on my case. She wouldn't leave me alone, and my ignoring her drove her nuts. Around this time, I noticed the ex showed up back on the scene a couple times. But when he wasn't around, she poured it on, all the same.
So I was getting pretty sick of her mind games and B.S., so I got this girl I know to help me with some revenge. We showed up at where the AW frequented, and my lady friend pretended to be all over me. Little did I know how far my lady friend was willing to go, because I ended up necking heavily with her right in front of the AWs face.
The AW lost it. All my friends who were there knew about the situation and I had told them to watch how I was going to bring down the AW. She literally looked like her head was going to explode, they said. Trying to look in every direction but at me necking with this hottie. She eventually couldn't take it anymore and stormed out.
This was the final burn on her, but I had also lead up to it by starting to hit on other women blatantly to get her going.
It really worked because she left me alone for the most part after that, plus I got a little nookie out of a woman whom I had previously considered just a friend and had no idea that she was interested.
This woman was a classic attention hor and it was alot of work burning her, but I played the ignore / pay attention game I think at just the right levels in order to keep her coming back.
EDIT:
Just to add, I think guys need to keep in mind that unlike alot of other women, AWs HATE competition. So you have to be careful with how much you flirt with other women in front of your AW.
Too much and she'll give up. With this one, I'm pretty sure I had her believing that she had me hooked, and I pretended to act a little AFC with her, just to drive the point home a little. This is good, because when you bring the other chick into the equation, she will have been so built up by that time, that her world will shatter even worse.
Bring the third girl into it when the games have reached their peak, so that she'll know she's been completely played.
For added measure, the next time I saw the AW, I made sure that I commented alot on the how awesome the third girl was and what a crazy night I had with her. I did that so I could really rub her nose in it.
