Attempting the famous "roomate swap"

[Bigworm]

I havent posted in a long time, possibly as result of not needing any advice and growing out of asking bout every little situation with a women. But this scenario has stumped me beyond question.
This girl who ive been seeing in a open relationship for four months now, has a really hot roommate. My girl is leaving early to go home for the holidays after she is done with finals on saturday. Next semester she goes to australia for a semester abroad and i probably wont see till next year in the fall. Now her roomate from wat i get the sense shouldnt be hard to get. And in addition my girl and the roomate arent getting along right now. SOOO here is the question.
How do i go about approaching the roomate, without looking creepy? And should i try my moves after my girl leaves or while my girl is still here and use her a unknowing pivot?


MUCH HELP APPRECIATED

 

[Bigworm]

Apparently no one seen sienfeld
But seriously im asking the question with the fact that i dont care bout the repurcusions

 

[DJDamage]

How do i go about approaching the roomate, without looking creepy? And should i try my moves after my girl leaves or while my girl is still here and use her a unknowing pivot?

Ask her for her email address and keep in touch until your girl leaves. I wouldn't try to do the swap until she is out of sight and out of mind.

 

[Bigworm]

Nice tip - even though they literally live in the college brownstone (three story building for those that dont know) next door - how can i ask her for email - do i just show up randomly to the place when my girl is not there?

 

[Rex Man]

Use the girl that's leaving as lubrication in building rapport with the target. That way when the first girl leaves, you should be well established and ready for the assault. Good Luck.

 

[MisterNigma]

I don't know how this would work in practice, but you're not really attempting a switch, rather a replacement.

If possible take things down to the "friend" level with your current gf, but still find reasons to hang out with her, and more importantly the roommate. Use the time to raise your value in the roommate's eyes.

Then just wait until your current gf leaves, and move in.


-E.Nigma

P.S.-I don't think the Seinfeld style roommate switch where both roommates remain can be done.

 

[MacAvoy]

Agreed. This isn't the classic swap. But thats to your advantage. Try to build some rapport with the roommate so that after you g/f is gone, it would be natural for you to hang out with the roommate.

Wait until the g/f is gone thought to make your move.

 

[Bigworm]

thanks guys all good tips

 

[Phyzzle]

do i just show up randomly to the place when my girl is not there?

Yes. Say, "is she here? her phone isn't working." That can be your excuse to be at that apt.

 

[Bigworm]

finally i can set up rapport thats no problems - but should i be straight up about my interest right away - or should i set up a couple meetings to warm stuff up ?

Even thou i feel like if im randomly talking to her now then it already displays a sh8t load of interest

thoughts?

 

[Phyzzle]

should i be straight up about my interest right away - or should i set up a couple meetings to warm stuff up ?

You mean should you be her friend first, and then try to show your interest? I don't think that's ever worked for anyone on here. Show interest fast (nonverbally).