"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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attempt at GRAND UNIFIED THEORY OF MATING

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this was brought up earlier in another thread and i guess it got my juices flowing.

if a grand unified theory exists, it SUPERSEDES all other advice, techniques and stratagems.... everything else flows from and agrees with this unified theory. IT IS THE CORE.

but i'm sure this concept has been bandied about but i'll articulate it as the Grand Unified Theory (GUT) (hey, i made an acronym!).

here it is:

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BE STRONG. a man needs to be strong. and women and are attracted to men/strength.
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- physically
- emotionally
- mentally
- professionally
- etc.

and so, if you are strong, you are NOT NEEDY. if you are not needy, you don't let people or women walk all over you because you don't NEED them so badly that you'll 'take it'.

if you are strong, you are not mean.

if you are strong, you are not selfish because you don't have to be. you get what you want and need and that breeds generousity and consideration for others.

let not your thoughts, words or actions reflect other than strength. let everything you are come from a place of strength and not weakness.

see how that works?

waddya think?

could that be the fundamental principle that all others stem from?

delta
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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...

i feared that too much of being a dj was about putting on a facade and playing a character or something....

and perhaps even in the best of circumstances, it still kinda is. and certainly, if you are naturally weak and flawed (and ain't we all), maybe much much more of a facade is necessary.

but under this new framing, maybe if we can get our heads around the proper way of looking at things, we don't have to be so much into PLAYING A GAME PROPERLY or MANIPULATIONS and MACHINATIONS.

maybe if we get into a right state, we really can 'keep it real'?

maybe... still gotta think about this....

delta
 

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NEVER!

:)

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There aren't any real facts in the world.

"Strength" by itself will not give every man abundant females. With the right character you can pull off all kinds of stupid "AFC" behaviour and make it charming. One of my old natural friends did really "AFC" things, but he got laid like a rockstar, by really good looking chicks.

Make your own "unified theory," every guy is different, humans are to complex for one theory. We are not some spiders mating; secrete hormone fluid, attract mate, plant eggs, bite off head, mating complete :)

Just injecting 100mg testosterone will not get you laid.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

Read more...

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