Atheist Dating a Christian

[mike_s]

Okay, so I started dating this one chick. She's a really great girl, but have later discovered she's very passionate about Christianity. I'm not. I'm pretty much an atheist. I'm afraid to continue with this relationship, as I don't know how things will work out. I totally respect her beliefs, but I'm afraid she wouldn't respect mine, and that numerous arguments could ensue.

What are other atheists' experience with dating a Christian?

 

[Nighthawk]

I don't date stupid people.

 

[KontrollerX]

You're setting yourself up for sadness to continue on with her bro.

If she's really hardcore she's inevitably going to attempt to convert you and even if you always resist it, this will be a looming and ever present annoyance you will have to deal with as she'll see you as the loved one she must save from hell.

Also if things progress even farther and you get married and have kids she'll want to raise them Christian and you might want to let them just grow up and decide for themselves on being atheist, christian or something else which will cause massive arguments probably leading to a messy divorce.

If its early on cut your losses now and find a different chick.

That or convert to Christianity.

Anything else spells heartbreak.

 

[Bible_Belt]

If it was that important to either of you, then it would have been discussed up front. I don't date Athiests, but I try to figure out if they are one beforehand. In my area, most women at least self-identify as Christian. It would be very limiting around here to not date Christians, kind of like saying you don't date girls with a myspace page. But in urban areas, there are more people out there, and probably more Atheists if that is what you are looking for.

 

[zerocelcius]

Ask her if it is an issue for her.

 

[Last Man Standing]

Look at the personal ads - they all say they are christians and yet are looking for a pimp!! Look at her actions - Is she a virgin?

 

[azanon]

I'm married to a (practicing) Christian and I'm an agnostic. I usually try to go to the main service with her as a concession. She does many things just for me too. (Sound like a marriage)? Anyway, it doesn't cause any major issues since we accept each other's beliefs.

It works mainly for this reason too: we just don't talk about it. If she needs some Christian nurturing, she has her church friends. If i want to talk agnosticism, I have message boards, lol. (not many atheist/agnostics in Little Rock, lol)

 

[Last Man Standing]

I'm married to a (practicing) Christian

What does this "practicing" mean? Would a christian marry an agnostic? No!!! Unless, she is NOT a christian!!!

 

[Lust]

It doesn't matter,

She can learn to respect your beliefs no matter how hardcore Christian she is. All she has to understand is that you are still a good person, you just don't believe in God.

One of the really experienced guys here at our local lair dated extremely religious girls. He'd tell them he's atheist, then let them know he's going over to Sri Lanka in two weeks to help set up a orphanage so that abandoned Muslim children won't starve to death.

 

[DJDamage]

It should be a non issue unless she brings it up and makes a big deal about it. In the meantime be glad if she yells the lord's name while having sex with you, consider that a good thing.

 

[ValleyDJing]

I don't date stupid people.

Apparently his gf does though.

 

[Alkali]

The other day I realized I was a god.

Quite simple, really. I was praying...and than I had a sudden realization

I was praying to myself!

 

[SnowBlind77]

if it really matters to her, then shes one of those close-minded fools that need to be eradictated from the human race. just kidding.....but not really. seriously tho, it shouldnt matter to her, and you shouldnt be thinking about how youre kids will turn up just yet

 

[Ace of Flames]

The other day I realized I was a god.

Quite simple, really. I was praying...and than I had a sudden realization

I was praying to myself!

This.

 

[ValleyDJing]

The other day I realized I was a god.

You too?! lol!

 

[MagnuM]

Okay, so I started dating this one chick. She's a really great girl, but have later discovered she's very passionate about Christianity. I'm not. I'm pretty much an atheist. I'm afraid to continue with this relationship, as I don't know how things will work out. I totally respect her beliefs, but I'm afraid she wouldn't respect mine, and that numerous arguments could ensue.

What are other atheists' experience with dating a Christian?

Debauch her man. It is the only way. Besides, be a bad ass and be agnostic lol.

 

[SnowBlind77]

i Will Not Tolerate Blaspheme On This Forum.

God Damnit!

 

[Obsidian]

lol @ Lastman's two comments. They are both accurate.

 

[PhilippeUrielAmancio]

Originally Posted by Nighthawk
I don't date stupid people.


Apparently his gf does though.

I assume you are implying that atheists are stupid.

So kids are smart for believing in Santa Claus? The Easter Bunny? The tooth fairy?

The argument swings both ways.

The fact of the matter is this... If you are an atheist, it's difficult to date a girl who is religious. At some point, she'll ask all the questions. And you'll have to provide answers that don't quite meet her needs. Atheism is shunned in our society, because religion has been pounded down our throats for centuries. Unfortunately, marriage usually requires one person to conform to another's religious beliefs... Unless you're lucky enough to be with someone who is extremely open-minded.

 

[ValleyDJing]

I assume you are implying that atheists are stupid.

Why yes I was. But we won't get into that.