At What Point

[jaymbrs]

if at any, did you guys feel like you can't be as picky about women anymore? I'm not there yet but I do know I'm not 25 anymore and it shows so getting a 22 year old isn't as easy. I still think I'm fortunate since I have all my hair and still in shape but I know not all "mature" men are like this.

 

[Smok1nAce]

Naturally men should become more picky as we get older and wiser.

This is only if you haven't had a problem "getting women" from the jump. The only men who become less picky are the ones who haven't really had success with women before at an early age.

 

[jimwho]

I have to be attracted to her no matter what anyone else thinks. I was at a Dollar-Tree store and this old gal
Had a butt that was too big for my taste <no pun, but her face was adorable, so that was the attraction.

As she came towards me I asked if she needed help finding anything. She says oh do you work here? I said ahh
No with a grin. I crashed and burned, but anyway, I have to have attraction.

 

[2Rocky]

There is a difference between being picky when you have abundance versus when you don't.

As a metaphor:
Turning down a job offer because you have one you like already versus when you are unemployed because it doesn't pay enough. You always get better offers when you are already working.

The same goes for women. When I had the confidence because I had women in my life, I sure attracted more and a higher class of woman, than when I was single and looking.

 

[Modern Man Advice]

if at any, did you guys feel like you can't be as picky about women anymore? I'm not there yet but I do know I'm not 25 anymore and it shows so getting a 22 year old isn't as easy. I still think I'm fortunate since I have all my hair and still in shape but I know not all "mature" men are like this.

I think this comes with age and maturity as others said here. I will add experience aka mistakes you learn from. The more you waste your time with the wrong women, the pickier you will be. Meaning, you will just have to see what's out there and go through all the time-wasting and "heartaches" possible to understand your time is valuable and need to raise your standards.

I am also 34 and I can tell you to this day I am still trying to recognize red flags and potential time-wasters. My standards are high but it is a constant battle between your d**k and your b**n (reminds me of a Seinfeld episode).

Hope this helps.

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[mrgoodstuff]

I think this comes with age and maturity as others said here. I will add experience aka mistakes you learn from. The more you waste your time with the wrong women, the pickier you will be. Meaning, you will just have to see what's out there and go through all the time-wasting and "heartaches" possible to understand your time is valuable and need to raise your standards.

I am also 34 and I can tell you to this day I am still trying to recognize red flags and potential time-wasters. My standards are high but it is a constant battle between your d**k and your b**n (reminds me of a Seinfeld episode).

Hope this helps.

Modern Man Advice

Can controlling or too manipulative be red flags?

 

[Modern Man Advice]

Can controlling or too manipulative be red flags?

As far as controlling, it depends. What type of control is she trying to gain? The relationship, your resources, you in general? Or things in her life?

As far as manipulative, absolutely. And it doesn't have to be "too" manipulative. Manipulative would do it.

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[mrgoodstuff]

As far as controlling, it depends. What type of control is she trying to gain? The relationship, your resources, you in general? Or things in her life?

As far as manipulative, absolutely. And it doesn't have to be "too" manipulative. Manipulative would do it.

Modern Man Advice

Control you, your resources, your image and your choices.

 

[TheCharmingGuy]

Set your standards exactly where you want them to be. There are billions of women on earth and just because your standards are a little bit high doesn’t mean you won’t meet anybody that meets those standards. The guys that boast about sleeping with a ton of women just have low standards. Know that you deserve better. Remember, you asking a woman out is a reward for them because you get to choose which women you approach. Women can only flirt and look pretty, none of them have the guts to approach a guy.

 

[Modern Man Advice]

Control you, your resources, your image and your choices.

I think this goes without saying, huge red flag.

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[ubercat]

You should be pickier because your busier. If you want to breed and you feel like times running out first relax make fertility doesn't drop off until mid 40s.

I ve hacked the game by dating immigrant women in my city. They re a better long term bet for a number of reasons. Some fool will trot out the old they re after your visa fear. I ve dated Asian, srilankan, EE, flips, and one latina. I ve never had that come up.

 

[jaymbrs]

Naturally men should become more picky as we get older and wiser.

This is only if you haven't had a problem "getting women" from the jump. The only men who become less picky are the ones who haven't really had success with women before at an early age.

I see where you and others posting similar are coming from. I guess I should've specified that by not being as picky I meant a woman's looks. I can still bang a 20 year old but it's not as easy, as my age and maturity shows. Some of these girls want a guy they can relate to and just bang. I can't relate to these young women very well so we dont click as often anymore. So I have to be less picky with them, meaning not necessarily a hottie.

 

[metalwater]

It was an issue whether you noticed or not, but if you don't notice then it's a good sign that she likes you for other reasons too.

it's just the same old smv calc, and that gives a plus in that case. use what you have. get either a better-looking girl or better behaved.

 

[ubercat]

Actually most of them had become Aussie citizens.