At the edge..

[flexibletacotheory]

Hey guys, I'm 22 years old and I'm very awkward around the opposite sex, I don't understand what exactly I'm doing wrong, I have a theory but I'm not really certain, Im very afraid of being shut down and I've only ever had sex once and it was awful. I only did it for the sake of doing it, but thats another story.

Basically, I, like another poster, go to work, come home, repeat. I hate bars, I am unattracted to ditsy drunk girls, and get ridiculously angry whenever I hear my gangly hippy roommate brag about his latest conquest, he's completely irresponsible, and yet he gets tons of action. I'm not after pure sex (As I learned from my horrible dating experience) Girls never look at me twice, and whenever one smiles at me I shy away or get very awkward quickly, I think its because I'm fairly unattractive, but I can't bring myself to go to bars, I haven't done anything social in nearly 6 months. I finally broke down and made a craigslist personals ad and found someone great, but I bombed it, we were doing so great, I was making her laugh constantly and we chatted eagerly after seeing a movie, then she asked me to sit in her car with her and listen to music, I took this as a queue, but I totally bombed it by asking her if I could kiss her, which, she of course, shot down. Since then I've gone on a couple dates, and never hear from them again, I am getting really lonely and not exactly sure what to do.

 

[KarmaSutra]

Baby steps.

First thing is to build confidence in who YOU are. You need to absolutely, unequivocably love yourself. Remember that you must be happy single before you can be part of a happy couple. Your roomate gets tons of action because he's aloof to thier bullsh!t games and nonsense. Do not emulate him. Instead get yourself on the path to your own excellency and then yo ucan concentrate on the opposite sex.

Start with these:

Penkittens path to enlightenement for the boy-man:

There are no shortcuts.

 

[SharinganUser]

I was once like you, but the only difference was that I resolved to get over my fear of rejection.

You know how a sword gets sharp? It's put over very hot coals and hammered for endless amounts of hours.

Last week I met a really cool girl and when I found out she was already hooking up with another guy, I didn't sweat it. I had been through that situation a few times before, so it didn't bother me for more a long time.

A few years ago, that would've shaken me to the point were I'd reconsider my philosophy on life, lol.

Not anymore, I am now forged in the fires of rejection.

What your doing is rejecting yourself WAY before any woman has the chance to. Peoples opinions of you only have as much power over you as you let them. Get it?

Fear of rejection means you have the goal of being accepted. Your goal should not be to be accepted, but rather to have a good time with her and build a good connection.