At a loss

[Suicide]

So I ****ed up again.

I have started dating this girl. But now that I know more about her past, I am having second thoughts. Not becuase of her, but becuase I tend to have major issues with girls sexual pasts. I am thinking it is the main reason I love girls but cringe at the thought of starting to care about one. I know it's terrible and judgemental, but I cant' help it. No matter what I try, I can't shun this problem, even though I'm aware that everyone has skeletons in their closet and I am certainly one of them. I can tell she has some underlying issue and she won't talk about it. She almost let it out the other night, but stopped herself--and that worries me. I have been in relationships before where the girl waits until you're in too deep and then springs some heavy **** on you, and I just can't handle that again. I really do like this girl and care about her, but I just can't deal with another troubled girlfriend. So now I am starting to think I should not have started dating her, and I want out. What do I do? Please fellas, spare me the egotistical crap. I am really desperate here.

 

[Dapper Swindler]

Maybe you should communicate all of this to her. If you want out of the relationship anyway, then what is there to lose? Maybe you could figure out what is going on with her.

My post count gets too high because I provide these simple and obvious answers.

 

[LuvMyArmyMan]

you need to get over it. What would you do if the girl you fell in love with slept with a lot of girls? You need to get over it. She's with YOU now. Not anyone else.

 

[Suicide]

What do I say?

"Hey baby, even though I've never directly seen it, I get the impression that you're a potentially crazy ***** and I don't need that."

 

[christz]

Originally posted by Suicide
What do I say?

"Hey baby, even though I've never directly seen it, I get the impression that you're a potentially crazy ***** and I don't need that."

apparently that seems to be the pointless dellima that some guys have..

man i got one friend who lets say the girl had sex with 4 guys. instead of just 4 guys he'll make a huff about how many ACTUAL TIMES she had sex.. and go something like

"dude she's had sex like 150 times!!!"

you all should join up in some screwed up club, and cry to each other how girls of this day and age tend to have slept with more than 1 guy or girl whatever the situation may be

 

[Suicide]

I'm fine with that part. It bugs me but I wouldnt cancel her becuase of it, becuase I know how petty and stupid it is--assuming she's had an average number of schlongs in her.

I've had two girlfriends who were great at first. Then I found out they'd both been abused as a child or whatever, and eventually they turn into really unpleasant people to be in a relationship with. I just get the same sort of vibe with this girl, and I don't want to end up in that same situation again--but it's not really an easy conversation to have if you don't know them super well: "say baby, who raped you? how ****ed up are you exactly?"

There's got to be some guy who's been in that situation who understands this.

 

[christz]

Originally posted by Suicide
I'm fine with htat part. It bugs me but I wouldnt cancel her becuase of it.

I've had two girlfriends who were great at first. Then I found out they'd both been abused as a child or whatever, and eventually they turn into really unpleasant people to be in a relationship with. I just get the same sort of vibe with this girl, and I don't want to end up in that same situation again--but it's not really an easy conversation to have if you don't know them super well: "say baby, who raped you? how ****ed up are you exactly?"

There's got to be some guy who's been in that situation who understands this.

ahh ok those type of girls.. yeah i just stay away from damaged goods.

they need professional help and immediate interlization therapy

 

[LuvMyArmyMan]

its the Madonna-***** complex. Like i said, you just gotta get over. Don't think about it.