"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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at a fork in the road with my career

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Hey Gang!

yeah I'm not really satisfied with my current job a the moment. I work at a very reputable Real Estate Franchise. No, I'm not a real estate agent, I just sell the actual franchise across North America. Money is just OK. Sure, my job easy I make phone calls all day to potential clients. But lately, I feel like I am not being challenged.

just to give you a background. Most of my experience has been over the phone. From B2b, Market research, telemarketing.. so talking over the phone is not a problem for me. I do have experience in Sales, Event Coordinating and Marketing. I also am a amateur poker player who streams on Twitch.

Now, i just dont feel fulfilled, I feel like m experience and skills set are being utilized properly and I'm kind of feeling like a caged animal. I love talking to people, I love organizing events, i love the feeling of actually selling someone as well.

I think this is an important juncture in my life. I believe the choices that I make now, will have a major influence on where I am going. My problem, is that I dont know where to go.

I could create my own business..like a lead generation for companies looking to do market research or acquire new clients or I can go back to the insurance sales which I did have fun before. Or just forget the whole sales thing and work for Mercedez benz and start as a car jockey an work my way up from there.

I just dont know where to go at this point. its been weighing on me for the last few days.

Any advice or suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

Thank guys
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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haha, a few days? Bless your heart. I've been wrestling with my career since the fall of 2016. Join the club.
 

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Well, don't give up your career because it is where your money comes from. What you need to do is to have another job, by having two jobs you will create a different environment for yourself, you will earn more and the most important of all, you will be challenged. ;)
 

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Well, don't give up your career because it is where your money comes from. What you need to do is to have another job, by having two jobs you will create a different environment for yourself, you will earn more and the most important of all, you will be challenged. ;)
^^ I'll with this.

Plus you should also try opening a small company. Get it properly registered, do any number of things, and see if you do in fact like being in the boss seat.

Only THEN do you decide.
 

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Own business is definately a thing to do! Not sure about your field, for me it is rather iffy. Can't advice you here. For me I think a restaurant or something with food is a good choice. Like a diner or something with a drive through some place where trucks stop or people work. Then there is real estate stuff, where you can buy properties for about 20k, restore, and flip them for 100k. Trucking is also good.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I work 40 x hours/week in IT and can’t stand it. I also work around 15 x hours/week as a police officer and love it. I could be a full time cop tomorrow but I’ve got myself in a pickle where it would mean a 50-60k a year pay cut, a decrease in benefits, and a total life style overhaul. I go back and forth all the time on if I should make the move.

I would say start working on a secondary career you might want to do either by getting certified, doing it part time, etc. Then decide if u want to make the move when all your ducks in a row. Hopefully it will be an easier call for you then for me .
 
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