"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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At a Crossroads (Opinions Needed)

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Casino

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SoSuave, I need some advice.

I might not be the most well respected or popular member on this forum. But regardless of that I need some advice.

Heres where I'm @: I'm currently in the ARMY reserves in the midwest. I've already been deployed a once for 15 months and got back june of 04. Now there are heavy rumors that we will be getting deployed once again to a hostile area overseas. For the duration of 1 year to 1.5 years. To put it lightly I'm not thrilled. It would throw a major wrench in my life plans and DJ plans. To be frank it would make like unbearable.

Heres the situation. I could stick around my hometown (which i've grown sick of) and accept a job as a carpenters apprentince and make 14.30 an hour. OR, accept the sales job I got out in California. I don't know anyone out there at all and could switch over to another unit that is less likely to be deployed.

Alot of my family and friends told me to "be a man" and just stay home. They say it would be to bold of a move to go out to Cali and start new.

So I come to you guys for a fresh perspective on the situation. What should I do?

Thanks.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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zerocelcius

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Why stick around and be deployed again?

What part of california are you thinking about going?

I was Regular Army so I know the stress deployments can put on you. If you can get out of going again and that is what you want I would go as fast as I could.

IMO the National Guard is being used way too much out side of the united states where it was designed to be.

Plus I saw some of the equipment you guys get. :down:
 
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Tough deal mate. Being deployed once, then having to worry about it happening again. I think you just have to ask youself if it's worth it. I can't honestly empathize with you because I've never been in the situation, but if you need to get away, don't settle. Do what you have to do. Don't listen to anyone else...nobody knows YOU, better than yourself.
 
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MAN thanks for the ADVICE DJ's. You guys really are an awesome inspiration. Honestly I'm a pretty strong willed person that never asks for advice (usually) but I knew that you guys would come through.

I have been considering the fact that people around me in my life are not making a progression. They have pretty much settled for mediocrity and I believe that when I bring up the idea of me doing something a little risky they subconciously try to sabatoge my mental frame. Napoleon Hill talks about this a little bit in his writings.

The only thing really holding me back is that my Grandma would be so far away from me...and she pretty much raised me so I'd feel pretty bad about leaving her.

As far as the deployment..I really can't say exactly where we are going..But lets just say it's hot and dry as hell and it's not Iraq. Anyways, I'm sure you can understand my trepidation.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Originally posted by Casino

As far as the deployment..I really can't say exactly where we are going..But lets just say it's hot and dry as hell and it's not Iraq. Anyways, I'm sure you can understand my trepidation.
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its not your fight


if theres anything you can do to avoid it I suggest you follow that path


your Grandmother would understand your reasons for moving if its important enough... dont stagnate...
 
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Be careful...

Be careful about being a hero. I would let the a$$holes who start the wars fight them.


Just my opinion, do as you wish.
 
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