"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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assault charge..lol

nice_guyeh

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so few weeks ago i got an assault charge,and uttering death threats. cept the threats are a lie, kid who ratted made that **** up, which really pisses me off..

i live in Canada. Clean record. don't do drugs, pretty solid group of friends-meaning we aren't a bunch of **** ups who are unemployed etc..

im going to see a counselor person in a few days to talk bout whatever. i think it'll look good to the judge.

so i have 2 questions.

1- can i travel out of Canada right now?or do i have to work on getting a pardon?

2- What will the charges be?
fines? volunteer hrs?
iv been told no jail time..


any advice is helpful, thanks. and yes,i know it was ****ing dumb to do. wasn't thinking, just wanted to dude to shut his mouth
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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BMX

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With your record, I can see the ADA's throwing out the communicating threats charges easily. I've seen it happen plenty.
 

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assault can vary. If you have already been charged you need to lawyer up fast and listen to what you lawyer says. Trust me on that, these cases can really spiral out of control fast and you might be facing a lot more time than you realize at the moment.

You have to have your lawyer look into things. And if you want to present any evidence regarding your character or whatnot you should have your lawyer present it because it looks better and he will know how to communicate with the prosecutors office.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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i have never been charged before. court soon. no lawyer. i have 2 reference letters, going to see a counselor, and got a job since the incident
 

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If it's anything like the U.S. (preface every sentence I type with that thought), your first court date will be to enter a plea. If you plead 'not guilty,' then they set a new date for your trial. Nothing happens that day except entering the plea. In my locale, there is a 1-year wait to get a trial. You can let the judge preside or have a jury trial (check your local rules).

If you plead 'guilty,' then the next part is receiving your sentence. Sometimes you have to come back, sometimes they do it that day. The things that you are trying to do to look good are really more relevant to sentencing. They're probably not going to be relevant to proof of your guilt or innocence. Ask the government's attorney or Assistant District Attorney before the pleading what they are offering in exchange for a guilty plea. There will typically be a standard deal that everyone gets, where they lessen the charges in exchange for a guilty plea.
 

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thanks for the help guys. 3 days, we'll see how this goes. hopefully well!
 

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When you get to court, be sure to check in on either the first or second docket call. That is basically a roll call of everyone who is scheduled to be in court that session so just call out your name when they announce your case. If you don't, you will be issued an OFA (order for arrest). Until then, you can travel if you want just be there on time to court.
 

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If you have a clean record the judge might me lenient on you. Just hope for the best.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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