Aspbergers and pick-up

[Papa_smu]

There's a guy in my city that I typically wing with. He has Aspergers and often times he runs into obstacles when approaching sets because of his disability.

I often give him advice when he approaches and in general

"Make sure you're creating distance when you first open"

"Always root your opener, don't go off on a tangent"

"If you want it bad enough, go out everyday"

However, he never follows through even after acknowledging my nuggets of wisdom.

I'm about to cut him loose and tell him that he needs to put the work in on his own. Although, I wondering how much of his issues he is facing right now he is in control compared to what he can't control due to his disability.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

In dating and relationships aspergers have low emotional IQ and are not empathic. Most of the times we hear of aspergers females getting with a loving dude and not caring about his needs because she can't feel anything. It may work to his advantage in dating games as hell be able to follow rules without worrying about how they feel.

 

[Young OG]

It's possible for him to get better at game. Tyler aka Owen from RSD has aspergers. Look at where his hard work and dedication got him.

 

[zekko]

"Make sure you're creating distance when you first open"

I'm not sure that this is useful advice for someone with Aspbergers. They have trouble connecting with people to begin with, not sure it's going to help to advise them to create distance.

 

[Papa_smu]

I'm not sure that this is useful advice for someone with Aspbergers. They have trouble connecting with people to begin with, not sure it's going to help to advise them to create distance.

And you're probably right. I gave this advice to him in the field when he kept on losing sets five seconds after the open. And this was due to him not respecting the girl's personal space. However, that's just an isolated instances. That could lead to an off-set question: would someone with Aspergers need to approach things differently compared to a normal guy?

 

[Papa_smu]

It's possible for him to get better at game. Tyler aka Owen from RSD has aspergers. Look at where his hard work and dedication got him.

Then it would be safe to say that the reason my friend isn't seeing success is because of his own lack of drive?

I apologize if that sounded negative, but there's nothing more aggravating than someone asking for help, not using your help, and then complaining he's not going anywhere.

 

[Young OG]

Then it would be safe to say that the reason my friend isn't seeing success is because of his own lack of drive?

I apologize if that sounded negative, but there's nothing more aggravating than someone asking for help, not using your help, and then complaining he's not going anywhere.

I would say he's not putting in enough effort. He needs to go all in. There is a video on YouTube where Tyler talks about his journey. He was going out practically every night and giving it his all. He had to eat, sleep, and shVt game to get to where he is. At first he was using canned material. He would memorize routines to use. After a while, he didn't need the routines and he could just be natural. Maybe that's what your friend should try.