Asking the same girl out TWICE?

[Evil_Muska]

Ok I asked this girl at a video store out like 7-8 months ago. I would say she was a HB7.

We had been having a great conversation and she was definitely showing signs that she was into me, and was blatantly ignoring other customers to keep talking to me, and we were flirting like crazy, so I took the dive.

She was flattered, but told me she had a boyfriend she'd been with for 2 1/2 years now. She also said it took a lot of balls to ask her out, and that she respected that.

Well I have been to that same video store only a handful of times since then, and the last time I was there and I bought something, she definitely remembered me, and was all smiles.

Would it be dumb to try and ask her out again?

Like next time I go in there, get in a convo with her bout something I'm buying, ask her if she is still taken, then if not ask her out?

I'm not gunna go all oneitis on her, I'm just looking around at my options.
So far there's her, a girl that works in a clothing store in the mall i was hitting on the other day, and a girl who works at the local Chick-Fil-A.

In general i guess I'm asking, in the right circumstance, is it worth it to try asking a girl out twice if there's a long enough time frame between the two events?

 

[killahpl]

Yes, it is worth asking her again, if for no other reason than that you'll keep thinking about it if you don't. And seriously, what have you got to lose? Are you get killed? wounded? are you gonna lose money if you do? If not, ask away.

Don't ask 'are you still taken?', though. Offer something specific as if that last time had not even happened.

 

[Jondo]

I would next her. Since she told you she has a boyfriend, she used you to build up her pride up to the point of asking her out, and then screwing you over and telling you she has a boyfriend. Since she has a boyfriend I would respect it. Since it's been so long, she will most likely use you in the same way since she'll know you've been thinking about her for all of that time.

 

[Dante420]

oh thats magical. i remember something like that and it ended up being magical, no other word to describe it. i learned its a good thing to flirt with retail workers, the signs are all obvious especially when they're all being projected to you from over the counter, a place where most interactions are boring and with people your not remotely interested in or considering. go for it, start that conversation up again and it should be easy from there, good chance there broken up

 

[sosocool]

go for it.

 

[st_99]

Would it be dumb to try and ask her out again?

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Hell no. Ask her out 10 times if you want. People give up waaay to easy.

As long as you're cool about it and all smiles keep asking away..

 

[starplayer]

It's ok to ask her again if you want, and if you think you've got a shot. Give her the benefit of the doubt.

Remember The 2 Strikes Rule.

It applies perfectly to this situation.

 

[kingsam]

unless you know she is split from her BF - shes still unavaliable , you'd look like an idiot !

she'd be like "whats with this guy, he knows i have a BF"

She was originally flirting wiht you for the ego boost and attention....

dude you need to get out a LOT more as you only have 3 really crap options!

 

[Evil_Muska]

dude you need to get out a LOT more as you only have 3 really crap options!

I actually have another option, this chick I'm working on atm, but I'm not getting my hopes up too high on that one. How is it I need to get out more? FYI, a week and a half ago I was taking 2 girls out in the same week and ended up having sex with one of them. So just because I don't have many options THIS week doesn't mean I won't have more later.

she'd be like "whats with this guy, he knows i have a BF"

If it had only been like a couple weeks or a month then yeah... but it's been over a half-year and I rarely go to that video store, so I bump into her like 2-3 times a YEAR. Besides, what if she DOESN'T have a bf anymore? Then I'd be missing out, now wouldn't I? A lot can happen in 8 months.

 

[st_99]

unless you know she is split from her BF - shes still unavaliable , you'd look like an idiot !

Wrong, if you think you look like an idiot. Then yes, you're an idiot.

If you're having fun with it while being interested and ask her out multiple times because you are persistent, confident and go after what you want even though you understand sometimes we lose. Then you are the MAN.

Stop with this douche bag self defeating attitude.

There is no better feeling than knowing you are in control, are not passive, are proactive and make your own fortunes in life.

 

[Jondo]

Thinking that being used is not self defeat. She told him that she's taken. She would not tell him that she's taken flat out if she was interested, but instead save that for a last resort since women do not like to be blunt like that. Even if they don't like you. The signs are obvious that she flirted around with him only to tell him she's taken. It was a show of what she has the power to do, since she was/maybe still is taken.

 

[st_99]

Thinking that being used is not self defeat. She told him that she's taken. She would not tell him that she's taken flat out if she was interested, but instead save that for a last resort since women do not like to be blunt like that. Even if they don't like you. The signs are obvious that she flirted around with him only to tell him she's taken. It was a show of what she has the power to do, since she was/maybe still is taken.

over analyzing, caring too much.

 

[Jondo]

over analyzing, caring too much.

Perhaps it's caring too much for the guy who wants to ask her out. I was simply explaining why he should move on and next her. It's not over analyzing and not caring too much for the girl. Can you explain how nexting a girl is a caring and over analyzing act st_99? She used him. It would be self-destructive to put himself in a position to be possibly rejected and it would be supporting her pride, which is something a girl like that does not need.