"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Asking out

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Just a thought: is it ever cool to ask a chick out face to face on the first date. You allready got her digits and IL is prety high. Does this look confident cheap or just not DJ?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Are you talking about asking her out on a date face to face? If so, I did it with this past girl I'm seeing; it was the second time I saw her. I'm not sure if this is cool or not, but it worked for me. I'd like to hear others chime in.
 

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Yeah, infact I'm thinking of it with the girl from my field report. Called her once and had a broken convo yesterday(my bad, I was bored). I'm considering asking her out(would be first date) face to face when I see her next.
 
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