"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

Read more...

asking out on a weekend

vonbock

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Aug 19, 2002
Messages
248
Reaction score
0
Location
dallas, texas
I know everyone on here says don't schedule dates on weekends. I have just gone out 2 weekdays in a row and I don't understand that concept. I have lots of paperwork to catch up on, train for triathlons, then get home eat and finish up paperwork for household business. Now I am 2 days behind in work. If I go out, I am up until 11 pm and come in the next day drained. My weekend days are rest days and are fun days. My belief is DJ could care less whether it is weekend or not, as long as he stays true to himself. Yes, asking a girl out on weekends might increase chance of flake since her gf's might invite her to a party with lots of guys at the last second, real bf might show up all of a sudden, but who cares, you just ask her again another time.
 
Last edited:

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

Ridingthelightning

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Sep 13, 2002
Messages
371
Reaction score
1
I don't know how old you are but you are wise beyond your years. You're probably not much younger than me lol.
These DJ rules are not rules, they are guidelines and nothing more.
Do what you damn well please.
 

DonGorgon

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 28, 2007
Messages
4,679
Reaction score
102
Location
Studying the fact that all lies contain fragments
Women go collecting new men on the weekend ... they F these men during the week then repeat cycle the next weekend.. 2 weeks and or 2 -3 dates is the average time for the average woman to F
 

guywhoneedshelp

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jun 17, 2008
Messages
646
Reaction score
8
vonbock said:
I know everyone on here says don't schedule dates on weekends. I have just gone out 2 weekdays in a row and I don't understand that concept. I have lots of paperwork to catch up on, train for triathlons, then get home eat and finish up paperwork for household business. Now I am 2 days behind in work. If I go out, I am up until 11 pm and come in the next day drained. My weekend days are rest days and are fun days. My belief is DJ could care less whether it is weekend or not, as long as he stays true to himself. Yes, asking a girl out on weekends might increase chance of flake since her gf's might invite her to a party with lots of guys at the last second, real bf might show up all of a sudden, but who cares, you just ask her again another time.
I think they say "don't answer your phone on the weekends." Supposedly you look unattractive, not busy, no friends, etc. But seriously, every minute of the weekends I'm not busy, however I don't go answering my phone on half a ring on a Saturday night.
 

ready123

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 16, 2007
Messages
1,259
Reaction score
35
Location
Los Angeles
vonbock, you're gonna see there's a lot of advice on this site that was made for the guys who are totally clueless - stuff like wait a few days to call, don't go to restaurants, don't buy gifts, etc. as soon as you get some momentum and social intelligence going, these rules are meant to be broken

they're noob rules for the guys who supplicate and telegraph neediness, not for cool guys

in your case, you're a doctor who's on call with what sounds like a lot of patient hours. you have no other choice. if the girl knows this and holds it against you, it says more about the type of person she is than it says about you

weekends are fine
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

Read more...

AKA FLEX

Master Don Juan
Joined
Apr 26, 2000
Messages
744
Reaction score
5
Do what you want. Weeknight dates might work for high school and college kids who don't have jobs or real-world responsibility, but weekends are the only free time I have to go out and get some.
 
Top