"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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asking out on a weekend

vonbock

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I know everyone on here says don't schedule dates on weekends. I have just gone out 2 weekdays in a row and I don't understand that concept. I have lots of paperwork to catch up on, train for triathlons, then get home eat and finish up paperwork for household business. Now I am 2 days behind in work. If I go out, I am up until 11 pm and come in the next day drained. My weekend days are rest days and are fun days. My belief is DJ could care less whether it is weekend or not, as long as he stays true to himself. Yes, asking a girl out on weekends might increase chance of flake since her gf's might invite her to a party with lots of guys at the last second, real bf might show up all of a sudden, but who cares, you just ask her again another time.
 
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Ridingthelightning

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I don't know how old you are but you are wise beyond your years. You're probably not much younger than me lol.
These DJ rules are not rules, they are guidelines and nothing more.
Do what you damn well please.
 

DonGorgon

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Women go collecting new men on the weekend ... they F these men during the week then repeat cycle the next weekend.. 2 weeks and or 2 -3 dates is the average time for the average woman to F
 

guywhoneedshelp

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vonbock said:
I know everyone on here says don't schedule dates on weekends. I have just gone out 2 weekdays in a row and I don't understand that concept. I have lots of paperwork to catch up on, train for triathlons, then get home eat and finish up paperwork for household business. Now I am 2 days behind in work. If I go out, I am up until 11 pm and come in the next day drained. My weekend days are rest days and are fun days. My belief is DJ could care less whether it is weekend or not, as long as he stays true to himself. Yes, asking a girl out on weekends might increase chance of flake since her gf's might invite her to a party with lots of guys at the last second, real bf might show up all of a sudden, but who cares, you just ask her again another time.
I think they say "don't answer your phone on the weekends." Supposedly you look unattractive, not busy, no friends, etc. But seriously, every minute of the weekends I'm not busy, however I don't go answering my phone on half a ring on a Saturday night.
 

ready123

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vonbock, you're gonna see there's a lot of advice on this site that was made for the guys who are totally clueless - stuff like wait a few days to call, don't go to restaurants, don't buy gifts, etc. as soon as you get some momentum and social intelligence going, these rules are meant to be broken

they're noob rules for the guys who supplicate and telegraph neediness, not for cool guys

in your case, you're a doctor who's on call with what sounds like a lot of patient hours. you have no other choice. if the girl knows this and holds it against you, it says more about the type of person she is than it says about you

weekends are fine
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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AKA FLEX

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Do what you want. Weeknight dates might work for high school and college kids who don't have jobs or real-world responsibility, but weekends are the only free time I have to go out and get some.
 
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