"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Not asking her out on a date but Asking her out to be my GF. I made a post about her about two months ago and things are great for us. A guy I know was at a party with her and she was being a loud mouth bragging about me to all of her friends. For the two months we got to know each other we really were not that intimate. No kissing, no holding hands, no touching in general, except for just a few times at night hanging out. Tomorrow is the day that I'm going to put a little risk on the line. How exactly do I go about asking her out? Do I come out and say "hey would you go out with me?" or do I tell her that I like her first and see what she says? We will be at a big hang out spot it's kind of like a town square. There is a theater, Starbucks, food places, etc in the area and a few isolated places to be alone with her. We are technically "hanging out" tomorrow but I still feel like buying her a drink or something at starbucks or paying to see a movie with her. Should I hold her hand and stuff before I ask her out? And should I ask her out towards the end or right when I see a chance?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Also what are some fun things to do with her while we are out? We are just going there to be with each other pretty much. I'd see a movie with her or something but last time we went to this place it was pretty boring.
 
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Not asking her out on a date but Asking her out to be my GF. I made a post about her about two months ago and things are great for us. A guy I know was at a party with her and she was being a loud mouth bragging about me to all of her friends. For the two months we got to know each other we really were not that intimate. No kissing, no holding hands, no touching in general, except for just a few times at night hanging out. Tomorrow is the day that I'm going to put a little risk on the line. How exactly do I go about asking her out? Do I come out and say "hey would you go out with me?" or do I tell her that I like her first and see what she says? We will be at a big hang out spot it's kind of like a town square. There is a theater, Starbucks, food places, etc in the area and a few isolated places to be alone with her. We are technically "hanging out" tomorrow but I still feel like buying her a drink or something at starbucks or paying to see a movie with her. Should I hold her hand and stuff before I ask her out? And should I ask her out towards the end or right when I see a chance?
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See what I put in bold? NOT GOOD AT ALL. How far have you and this girl gone? But most of all, if you ever feel any inclination of "risk" or discomfort when it comes to deciding whether or not to make a girl your gf, then that means your NOT ready to make her your gf!!!
 
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Sorry I'm new to this :whistle: I really don't know the procedure....


I feel risk because I don't want rejection. I want her to be my GF. I have tried Kino on her. We have played wrestled and stuff. I don't even know if I'm supposed to hold her hand before I ask her out or anything.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Sorry I'm new to this :whistle: I really don't know the procedure....


I feel risk because I don't want rejection. I want her to be my GF. I have tried Kino on her. We have played wrestled and stuff. I don't even know if I'm supposed to hold her hand before I ask her out or anything.
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First start off by having a fun night with her, than show her #1 you're a sexy guy #2 you're comfortable being a MAN and showing your sexuality a bit (light touches to her knees/legs, lowerback, embraceful hugs, good eye contact with a sexy smile, confident thought provoking sexual comments) # 3 You acknowledge you're both very young and don't want something overly serious # 4 You'll do all the above and at the end of the night not mention one ****in' thing about being gf/bf, but just grab your peach fuzz covered nutsack, look deep into her eyes and kiss her as passionately as you can (no slobbering, also throw in some light caressing on the back of her head/neck with your free hand)

I have also used the old "You know what? I could just kiss you right now" said playfully with a nice smile with success....if she grins and looks like she just melted after you say that YOU'RE IN. KEY though is CONFIDENCE....you have to say it like you MEAN it and as if she wouldn't OBJECT any ways she's that into you.

She will do either one of two things, go along with it beautifully or make up some bull**** excuse.....if it's the ladder who cares you act indifferent laugh it off and move on her loss boss.
 
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...ing whtthaaaaa

how old r u
cos if ur 12 then go ahead but if ur older then you have to do a little more
 
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CarlitosWay said:
First start off by having a fun night with her, than show her #1 you're a sexy guy #2 you're comfortable being a MAN and showing your sexuality a bit (light touches to her knees/legs, lowerback, embraceful hugs, good eye contact with a sexy smile, confident thought provoking sexual comments) # 3 You acknowledge you're both very young and don't want something overly serious # 4 You'll do all the above and at the end of the night not mention one ****in' thing about being gf/bf, but just grab your peach fuzz covered nutsack, look deep into her eyes and kiss her as passionately as you can (no slobbering, also throw in some light caressing on the back of her head/neck with your free hand)

I have also used the old "You know what? I could just kiss you right now" said playfully with a nice smile with success....if she grins and looks like she just melted after you say that YOU'RE IN. KEY though is CONFIDENCE....you have to say it like you MEAN it and as if she wouldn't OBJECT any ways she's that into you.

She will do either one of two things, go along with it beautifully or make up some bull**** excuse.....if it's the ladder who cares you act indifferent laugh it off and move on her loss boss.
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Great advice Carlitos. I wish I could of read that before I was with the girl. There were 20 perfect times when I could of said 'You know what, I could kiss you right now and you would love it!" or something like that.

Let me tell you how are night went.

We just chilled out sat on rocks and people watched. Commented about how ugly and weird the people that were walking past us were. Then we walked some more and eventually ended in our own little isolated area behind the bushes at the town center thing play fighting and just a lot of light teasing. There was plenty of flirtatious touching. That was pretty much it for like 3 and a half hours.
 
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Sorry I'm new to this :whistle: I really don't know the procedure....


I feel risk because I don't want rejection. I want her to be my GF. I have tried Kino on her. We have played wrestled and stuff. I don't even know if I'm supposed to hold her hand before I ask her out or anything.
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Procedure? Theres no definied procedure to this sort of thing. Heck, doing anything or saying anything with a girl is never a procedure; it all has to be natural and just flow.

And I know the exact feeling you're experiencing when you say you feel risk because you dont wanna be rejected. I used to think that way, until I discovered that REGRET IS ALWAYS WORSE THAN REJECTION. Trust me man, if you dont make a move on a girl or dont have the nuts to do something, the regret you will have when after you've screwed things up will feel worse than than actually being rejected. Heck, if you got rejected, at least you can say that you had a pair of balls and tried. Never be afraid of rejection my friend; always have a pair of nuts and go for it, who gives a fvck if you get totally denied; at least you tried.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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The first thing you need to do is figure out what you want to ask the girl out for. Do you want to take her out to the movies, to a restaurant for some of her favorite food (you’ll need to find out what that is before you take her to some spicy food place that will give her indigestion!), to a skating rink, a school dance, a party at a friends’ place, and the list goes on.:cool:
 
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