Asking out a girl too soon.

[mahon83050]

I work in a hotel at the front desk and the object of my desire works in Banquets.

I have only interacted with her on two occassions since I rarely see her. Her IL seems to quite high (asked me questions about myself and was flirtatious). The corker is, I only talked to her for like 3-4 minutes the first time and few times very briefly as she passed by the other day.

I want to ask her out, but I feel I have not interacted with her enough and she barely knows me. My plan is to get another one on one with her for a few minutes and then suggest hanging out the next time (fourth time).

I know this maybe "overthinking" but the truth is, she would probably feel uncomfortable going out with me after such little interaction. What do ya'll think.

 

[MadaMadaDame]

a thousand + post count and still don't know what to do?
Ask for her number first
If she gives it, proceed
Ask her out ( calling )
If she agrees then good for you, if she gives counter-offer then better cause you now know what she thinks of you. If she is hessitant then it's probobly a no. so Next her.

 

[mahon83050]

Originally posted by MadaMadaDame
a thousand + post count and still don't know what to do?
Ask for her number first
If she gives it, proceed
Ask her out ( calling )
If she agrees then good for you, if she gives counter-offer then better cause you now know what she thinks of you. If she is hessitant then it's probobly a no. so Next her.

I know what to do, and alot of my posts are about non-dating stuff as well, bud.

I was just seeing if anyone agreed to what I felt and my philosophy on the situation.

 

[MadaMadaDame]

It's alright to ask her out, but don't ask like: Hey would you want to go out with me blah blah...

Ask like this: Hey it would be fun to go to <insert> on < insert day>
Wait for reply > if positive
say: great i'll see you soon,<insert whatever ****y funny line in here>
Hang up phone
viola a date is arranged

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Has anyone ever considered that she would WANT to go out with you TO learn more about you?

Plus screw the half stepping with getting her phone number. You can see her every fricken' day, what wouldn't you be able to say to her at work?

Ask her to go out after work, maybe even to a competitor's hotel to check out the competition. Get to know her and vice versa. If she's interested, she'll GIVE YOU her phone number to do something well outside of work like something during a weekend.

 

[Ever onward]

Just ask her out.

It's a common mistake to think you need a certain amount of interaction before she'll go out with you.

I'm living proof of that and I am by no means a brad pitt lookalike.

 

[Ricky]

Hold on now. Mahon has a valid point. Sometimes it's worth it to get a bit more rapport.

At the very least the girl might let it be known that she already has a boyfriend and it will save Mahon some trouble.

If he talks to her a few times he can get this info.

 

[Ever onward]

Well we are all entitled to our own opinions Ricky. I agree it's good to get the low down if possible but in the end that just leads to over analysis of the situation.

Lately I've been somewhat successful with women and I've accomplished that by just going after what I want. Women respect that.

 

[Unforsaken]

To mahon

Just go for it, You don't want to remember what if....

One option is to tell her to go out on a lunch break with you (there you find all the information you need ex. if she single). If she take lunch breaks with other people then join them and have a good time.

 

[MadaMadaDame]

If she take lunch breaks with other people then join them and have a good time.

if you know her mates then i guess its ok to take lunch break together, but if not i guess it would be better if you two were alone. Create an environment that says you want her romantically and not on the Friendship zone.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by Ricky
Hold on now. Mahon has a valid point. Sometimes it's worth it to get a bit more rapport.

At the very least the girl might let it be known that she already has a boyfriend and it will save Mahon some trouble.

If he talks to her a few times he can get this info.

Oh come on now, even though he's only talked to her a couple of times, she's already showing some sort of IL by flirting with him and asking tons of questions about him. What do you expect him to wait for, some sign like her showing up to work nude?

Mahon, you had better make your move before another DJ who has no thoughts of hesitation steps into the picture and takes her interest from you!

He who hesitates is AFC...

 

[KnightRyder]

Originally posted by Ever onward
Well we are all entitled to our own opinions Ricky. I agree it's good to get the low down if possible but in the end that just leads to over analysis of the situation.

Lately I've been somewhat successful with women and I've accomplished that by just going after what I want. Women respect that.

well said

Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia

He who hesitates is AFC...

see above