"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Asking her out

oneboy21

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I Met a girl two day ago , and our Conv was good and i had her email
i want to ask this girl for a coffee date
how do u write an email
write me with some ideas
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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wheelin&dealin

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oneboy21 said:
I Met a girl two day ago , and our Conv was good and i had her email
i want to ask this girl for a coffee date
how do u write an email
write me with some ideas
Here's how your email should go:

"Hey, what's your phone #?"


Then call her up, chat for abit and ask her out... it works like magic!!
 
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Hi (insert name),

Hey how are you. I got your e-mail and just wanted to chat abit. I figured we don't know each other that well so...

(insert pathetic AFC story about.. your oneitis, that dog you used to have as a kid who's dead now, how the kids at school keep picking on you and calling you nedry 4-eyed geek and it makes you cry or whatever... etc.)

And that's my story.

Soooo.....Wanna go out some time?
 

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Write something like:

"Hey HB,

It was good meeting you the other day. Our conversation about XXX was really interesting. It seems like you have a unique personality. Give me your phone number so we can set up a time to meet and get to know each other better.

-oneboy21"
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

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