"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Asking her out again??

bruceartest24

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I had this date planned with this girl I am into and she agreed. A few days before the date she had to cancel because of a going away party for a friend. She apologized and promised to make it up to me. She then asked me how the event went and I told her it was great she told me she was sad she had to miss it and I told her maybe we can go to another event sometime. She said "we definately should!".......so i got with a few other chicks for a few weeks and did not try with her again. I was wondering if next week I should ask her out again? what kind of approach should I do. Kind of confused and need some advice thinking about just saying so when she would reschedule our original plans or ask if she has any events in mind that she wants to do/see. Thanks for any advice!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Make some exciting fun plans with your friends and then tell her she can tag along if shes free; just leave it at that...you should seem(or actually be) unaffected either way. If she comes great, if not don't sweat it, you'll have fun with your buddies anyway
 

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IMO... wouldn't be a wise move.

Takes two to play the game of chess. I.e. mutuality must exist for a relationship to thrive and develop.

You moved your pawn...

If I memba' correctly...about two weeks back - asked a chick if she wanted to hang out, I admit it was a spur of the moment suggestion. Mentioned some bs she was occupied with, she offered to reschedule for the following day - Being cool, I insisted that its no biggie really and that she can give me a buzz or I'll message. The following day, no nada - text/call. Actions or in-actions' speak louder than words.

Point I'm trying to make is....If she wants to see you, she will make an effort. Don't delude yourself. Life is too short.
 

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fibonacci said:
IMO... wouldn't be a wise move.

Takes two to play the game of chess. I.e. mutuality must exist for a relationship to thrive and develop.

You moved your pawn...

If I memba' correctly...about two weeks back - asked a chick if she wanted to hang out, I admit it was a spur of the moment suggestion. Mentioned some bs she was occupied with, she offered to reschedule for the following day - Being cool, I insisted that its no biggie really and that she can give me a buzz or I'll message. The following day, no nada - text/call. Actions or in-actions' speak louder than words.

Point I'm trying to make is....If she wants to see you, she will make an effort. Don't delude yourself. Life is too short.
This. The ball is really in her court. If shes interested. she will make it up to you and call/text you. Its always a good idea to filter out the low IL women. This is a good opportunity to do so.
 
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