Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Asking girl out, give me your input

unorthodox

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I asked the girl out for a tea at her place. These are the results. How would you have handled this?


ME: hey
HER: Hello!!!
ME: If monday's good that means all week is going to be good. I wanted to ask you. How about some tea at your place this evening? You know, we'll chit chat, have a laugh, nothing big, if anything you'd make a nice friend.
HER: I would love too, but my friend Jenn just flew back from seeing her boyfriend out of state, and we are having a "girls night" tonight to catch up...rain check?
ME: Must be some very important catch up talk. I have to see what this week brings and if I can be available again.


....and what would you have said to that? Back when I was a KFC I'd give her the rain check and ask her when, i.e. hang her the keys.. We'll see where this one goes, lol. Very good stuff, I love myspace!!!!!!
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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DJ_in_making

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You should've told us more background on this girl. I don't know if she's your good friend, or some acquaintance or what!
All I can say is next time say it more along the lines of "I'm doing blah blah blah would you like to join". You show you're having a good time anyway and if she'd like to become part of your world.

I'm guessing though by your second sentence that you don't know that girl too well. I liked your response though.
 

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Assuming that she is already is attracted to you, your response to her:

HER: I would love too, but my friend Jenn just flew back from seeing her boyfriend out of state, and we are having a "girls night" tonight to catch up...rain check?

You: Perfect, I'll bring a friend of mine and well hand out for 5 mins at Starbucks, before my friend and I head out on our way (to the club,etc.).


This basically gives her no option, plus with the false time constrain, who can't make room for 5 mins out of their schedules. Bringing your friend will leave separate the convo. into two groups, you and your girl/your friend and her friend.

I advice asking a girl out to a place where your going to regardless of her presence. It's obvious that you can't go to her house even if she doesn't want to. As a result, I'm assuming that you already have a deep connection with her, and this is not one of your first dates.

Other than that you have solid game champ. :up:
 

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Well, we never met. We just talked online for a week or two, I don't remember, I think a week. Basically in her profile she posts pictures of her face (cute) and her two kids. So I was talking to her, ask her about her tattoos, and then asked her to send me picture of her tattoo. One thing led to another, I asked her to send me picture of her tattoo, she couldn't take one (bad camera I think), so we setteled on picture of her body. She was kinda "I don't send pictures of me in my nighty to strangers" at first, but I told her just send me anything you compfortable sending and didn't talk to her much after that. One day, she send me pic of her stomatch, boobs covered. Ace Of Flames seen that pic. I'd say she's #7 or possibly 8. Anyway, I'm asking her for tea at her place because she has kids, plus why not? By the way, it ain't gonna be a tea drinking night, maybe for the first 10 minutes or so, but after that kids go to sleep, we talk, kino, cuddle, make out, maybe even fvck? mmmmmm, fvck..

So this is her reply to me:

HER: Ok! Let me know. It's very big! She might be moving to XXXXXX to be with him, so very impotrant talk. ;)


My plan, stay quet until tomorrow. Ask her tomorrow if she's busy in the evening. Need more input now. Should I ask her if she's busy or just ask her how about this evening???
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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