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Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

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Asking an intern girl with a bf out?

Enigma412

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I am interning in Washington, D.C. and there is a chick who seems to be into me. The challenge is that she has a boyfriend (or at least claims to. many of these intern girls lie about that). However, that isn't as big an obstacle as it would appear to be since she hasn't seen him for 9 weeks and will be in Washington until August. She is doing a summer job here as well. Even if she has a boyfriend, she obviously does not care too much about him if she is willing to be hundreds of miles away (she is from Massachusetts) from him for 2/3 of a year. The difficult thing is that I will have to ask her out to something that does not seem like a formal date. It would be us "just hanging out." That would pretty much take the bf issue off the table. Once I get in the door I don't anticipate any problems, but I have to play my cards rights when it comes to getting the ball rolling.

She seems to be one who likes to play hard to get. She has shown signs of disinterest a few times, but as time has passed she has pretty much stopped that and is showing increasing interest. She checks me out at literally every single opportunity. That is the main sign of interest from her. However, I have been burned by attention *****s a lot recently and I am wondering if she could just be a AW who is pretending to be into me just so she can see if she can seduce me. We have been in groups several times ove rthe past two months. I was not interested in her in the beginning but my interest in her has gradually risen. However, since I wasn't interested initially there is the possibility that she is trying to see if she can make me "fall" for her like numerous other guys.

I am just curious about the AW/interest issue. I will go for her regardless of what happens. What would you do in my shoes? This is an unusual position.

Note: Interns basically have their own world. She is certainly one of the 3 or 5 hottest intern chicks here and both of my roomates have tried to get with her but couldn't do it. One of them seems to be a ****-blocker, but especially with her. If he couldn't have her it seems that he doesn't want anyone else--let alone his roomate--have her. How can I best deal with that?
 

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CoolRunning

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This sounds like oneitis. Go out. Meet some other girls. Have fun with them. If you get a chance, introduce them to oneitis. It will make your value rise.
 

JJMcLure

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Ever thought she uses the BF angle to deflect unwanted interest?

Whenever you ask a chick to hang out, she ASSUMES it's a "date". You can't slip under the radar that easily hoss. You shouldn't be doing "formal" dates anyway regardless. What would your plan be, get her on the date and she falls for your charms or you suddenly just grab her and make out?

Chicks who are interested don't make it hard, they help the guy. Sounds like this one has a bunch of guys after her anyway.

The ****block is probably less attractive than the target - jealousy. As for the ****block you need to disarm her with some of the usual techniques if you were going to get anywhere. Otherwise it's like trying to get into a house while the dog is loose in the yard.

As everyone else has tried, you seeimgly have little to lose by trying something with her (the only signal of interest you can judge accurate is making out with her then fvcking her). But I don't think you'll be successful. As you seem intent on asking her out, if she declines/gives an excuse - forget it. After that if she is an AW she will only step up her "signals" - as you've played your hand and shown your interest. You could easily fall for it and get oneitis, but it will just be leading you on.
 
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