"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Asking about women at the gym

smokediver512

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I have always heard that asking women for their #'s or asking them out at the gym is a no no. I am interested in this woman at my gym, but I only see her at the gym. How do I get around this little problem? I know I could get her comfortable with me and then ask her, but I do not have the patients to wait.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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SamePendo

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If you ask, you shall recieve.

If you haven't talked to her:
Go up to her, say hi, ask her if she's new.
She'll either say yes or no or whatever, investigate more about her answer, then proceed to tell about how much you've been there.
3 minutes TOPS of conversation, not more, if the conversation is still one, try to cut the conversation short even before the 3 minutes, signal to her to follow you to your excercise or whatever and keep talking.

The point is, after brief intro and all. Rinse, then repeat. Rinse again. And then, tell her you're out, give her your cell and tell her to write down her cellphone for you two to go out again:

"Hey CuteHB, write down your number, so we go out sometime".

Don't make a big deal out of this, you're just asking her for her number.
 

020204

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Gyms and health clubs are potentially the biggest pickups joints around. This is a problem I have, I do fitness classes and I am literally surrounded by women and I'm not exaggerting either. A lot of guys are falsely intimidated by the big guys in the gym doing all the moning and groning but in reality they are the ones who seldom get the action. I'm very toned and in my experience it is better to be more toned as I feel you are going to attract a better quality of women than if you are overly muscular. Aside from being in shape, I feel absolutely hopeless trying to navigate the various groups of women in gyms. I am in a position where I am outnumbered by women, which can be great but it is almost like you have to negotiate a whole group. I am not saying I am the one getting the action, I just wish I was despite how it may appear. Groups of women can be intimidating at times.:cry:
 
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