sodbuster raises some good points, and you need to take them into consideration.
Make sure you understand the risk that you may lose your job and/or your workdays may become a living hell if things don't work out (as they are likely to longer term).
Having said that, I was involved with 3 women where I worked over the last couple of years and without any negative fall out.
Girl 1 was 5 years old than me, and married. I may have teased her a bit in the office, and then she e-mailed me first. It escalated into her kissing me in a lift, make out in a place near to the office, then one day she came to my place after work.
Lasted for a few months as a f/b arrangement [no one else ever knew about it as far as I know]
Girl 2 was younger in my current office. She started e-mailing me
first and over a few weeks I escalated over several weeks by e-mail / text.
One night of heavy make out (then she said next time we met up her shirt would be staying on) then 2 days later she tracked me down and fvcked me [my mates at work knew about it, since she found me that night when I was with my friends, and spread from there].
Girl 3 was also in my current office. She e-mailed me first, I got her number after 1 day, then 2 days since I knew she was into me big time, I fvcked her in the sick room in the basement at work.
Lasted a few months, then issues with how insecure she was (she found out about girl 2) and other stuff came out and it ended [this one became almost common knowledge in the office; luckily no one who gave a damn about using it against me found out :rockon:]
Common points for me:
- The girl has to show some interest beforehand, otherwise you are asking for a s!xual harassment case.
- When in doubt about their interest, slower escalation is better than too fast, since you know where they'll be every day.
- But once you know her interest, make a move.
- In all my cases, they were temps and I didn't directly work with them, so made things a lot less awkward since I didn't even need to see or speak to them afterwards.
- For me, I KNOW if worst came to worst, I could find another job. Make sure you take it into account.
In your case, my assessment as someone who has been there done that, is that you're wasting your time.
