Asking a girl what she wants

[Comatozed]

My problem at the moment is that I am pretty much reliant on tinder to meet girls - due to me being in a city away from my social circle and my mates here all being in LTR's so not going out much, plus I'm still too scared to cold approach - where else is good to meet chicks?

The girls on tinder are a mixed bag, some want to date some want a ONS.

I have had some decent success, a few ONS, couple of plates (that I date) and a couple were I flopped.

My problem is, I am actually looking for a LTR with the right person (loltinder) but whilst I find that person I'm more than happy to ONS, have plates. Do I tell girls this? and if so, how?

Does asking a girl "what she is looking for" compromise my frame or can it be casually asked?

I imagine they will almost always ask the question back to me, at which point an answer of..

"just looking to meet people and have fun, would consider a relationship with the right person", in my opinion, says 'im dtf if thats all you want but at the same time I will consider dating'.

So yea..casually ask these sloots what they're after or just escalate as far as I can at all times?. I've done this in the past, had girls bang on date 1, and feel a bit disapointed or had them say they're embarrassed about it and then not want to take it any further as a result - that is the reason why i ask, the ones that aren't just looking for a quick **** i'd sooner not ruin the chances of LTR with, cos i can do the ONS thing with the ones that ONLY want a ONS.

 

[mikey2012]

Never ask what she wants...betas do that...lead ...let her follow..

 

[Comatozed]

I don't wanna spoil what could be LTR potential by ****ing her on the first date.

But then again I guess if the only reason we didn't f on the first date was cos I decided not to but she was dtf, then that doesn't mean she's not a sloot, so she was not ltr material in the first place.

 

[mikey2012]

you think like a little beta..biaaatch.. first date and ltr? wtf? please... see if you like her first...you wanna get married bro? don't wanna be lonely? lol... remember you are the prize...

 

[djthiago1]

Whoooa slow down. LTR before even having sex? What if she has a ****? Ever think about that? Slow down, try to get to know her better first.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

My problem at the moment is that I am pretty much reliant on tinder to meet girls - due to me being in a city away from my social circle and my mates here all being in LTR's so not going out much, plus I'm still too scared to cold approach.

You pretty much unwittingly summarised your problems yourself:

-You rely on online dates to meet 'the woman of your dreams' (we've all been there and it rarely works, an even then mainly for complete sociopaths). As you say yourself... tinderlol.
-You live in a city away from your social circle. You NEED to make another social circle if you are to a) survive in that city and, b) form friendship and relationship of ANY kind in that city.
-Go out and meet guys first if you find it tough approaching. With guys come girls.
-When approaching, be independent of outcome. Women can smell a nervous boner a mile off. Don't think about scoring, think about meeting people primarily. There is a lot of truth in finding what you're looking for once you stop searching so much.