"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Asking a girl to homecoming you don't really know.

ElStud

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Well, I'm thinking about asking a girl out to homecoming and I wanted to know, is it alright to ask out a girl you don't really know? For instance, just going up to a girl and asking, “Hey you going to homecoming?” “No” “Cool, what time should I pick you up?”. I want to know what you guys think about this.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Obsidian

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i did it for my senior homecoming, and that was back in my chump days! Whenever you ask a girl out, you need to get some level of rapport first. That can come from as little as one meeting, altho ideally I think 2-3 meetings are better. But like I said, I met a girl at a party the week before my senior homecoming and I phoned her up later and got the date...back in my AFC days.

For prom that same year, I got a girl that I had even less contact with.

Just do it!
 

Obsidian

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umm, to answer your question a little more precisely,

Remember that you have about a 5% chance of a girl saying "yes" just by randomly going up to her and saying, "Hey, wanna f*ck?" (I haven't actually tried this, but that's what I hear...)

You dramatically increase your odds with just 5-10 minutes of convo, however, and if it's a shy/conservative girl then it might also help to meet with her once or twice more to fully maximize your chances.
 

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If you don't really know her don't even bother. I've seen this happen a lot of times including to myself and trust me it never works.
 

tsmith2334

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I asked a girl I didn't really know that well to prom. She didn't go to my school, so her going with someone else was unlikely. I just called and left a voice mail (probably should have done it live though) asking her if she would want to go. She said sure.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Kev07

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Well if you don't know her, you got nothing to lose.

I say go for it, but build some rapport first. Concentrate on more than just getting her to laugh, try to get to know her as a person a bit instead of just as someone to tell jokes to.
 
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