"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Asking a girl to homecoming you don't really know.

ElStud

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Well, I'm thinking about asking a girl out to homecoming and I wanted to know, is it alright to ask out a girl you don't really know? For instance, just going up to a girl and asking, “Hey you going to homecoming?” “No” “Cool, what time should I pick you up?”. I want to know what you guys think about this.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Obsidian

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i did it for my senior homecoming, and that was back in my chump days! Whenever you ask a girl out, you need to get some level of rapport first. That can come from as little as one meeting, altho ideally I think 2-3 meetings are better. But like I said, I met a girl at a party the week before my senior homecoming and I phoned her up later and got the date...back in my AFC days.

For prom that same year, I got a girl that I had even less contact with.

Just do it!
 

Obsidian

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umm, to answer your question a little more precisely,

Remember that you have about a 5% chance of a girl saying "yes" just by randomly going up to her and saying, "Hey, wanna f*ck?" (I haven't actually tried this, but that's what I hear...)

You dramatically increase your odds with just 5-10 minutes of convo, however, and if it's a shy/conservative girl then it might also help to meet with her once or twice more to fully maximize your chances.
 

The Sperminator

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If you don't really know her don't even bother. I've seen this happen a lot of times including to myself and trust me it never works.
 

tsmith2334

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I asked a girl I didn't really know that well to prom. She didn't go to my school, so her going with someone else was unlikely. I just called and left a voice mail (probably should have done it live though) asking her if she would want to go. She said sure.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Kev07

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Well if you don't know her, you got nothing to lose.

I say go for it, but build some rapport first. Concentrate on more than just getting her to laugh, try to get to know her as a person a bit instead of just as someone to tell jokes to.
 
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