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Asking a girl out in front of her boss

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How to ask out a girl in front of her boss?

For the last two weeks I’ve been visiting a vape shop in my area. There is a cute girl that works at this shop and based on how she treats me, I’ve felt a connection with her. I’ve visited her about 4 times at the shop the past week and every time I walk into the store she perks up and greets me excitedly. One time when I entered the shop we were vaping together, we would look into each others eyes and even blow vapor into each others faces and everytime I would take a hit so would she. Last night I went to the shop with my friends and she would come and stand by me even though I wasn’t buying anything.

I feel great chemistry but here’s the thing. I’m yet to ask her out because her boss is always around. Everytime I walk into the shop and hang out, her boss is usually no more than 10 feet away minding the counter. Also, a mistake on my part I've yet to ask her for her name nor does she know mine. It's stressful that when I work up the courage to ask her out, her boss is always there!

Any advice on how I should go about asking this girl out?
 

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666goobypls69 said:
How to ask out a girl in front of her boss?

For the last two weeks I’ve been visiting a vape shop in my area. There is a cute girl that works at this shop and based on how she treats me, I’ve felt a connection with her. I’ve visited her about 4 times at the shop the past week and every time I walk into the store she perks up and greets me excitedly. One time when I entered the shop we were vaping together, we would look into each others eyes and even blow vapor into each others faces and everytime I would take a hit so would she. Last night I went to the shop with my friends and she would come and stand by me even though I wasn’t buying anything.

I feel great chemistry but here’s the thing. I’m yet to ask her out because her boss is always around. Everytime I walk into the shop and hang out, her boss is usually no more than 10 feet away minding the counter. Also, a mistake on my part I've yet to ask her for her name nor does she know mine. It's stressful that when I work up the courage to ask her out, her boss is always there!

Well generally speaking,you SHOULD NOT ask a girl out in front of her boss.....or ANY OTHER PERSON for that matter. For some reason (maybe social),chicks act weird when a guy shows interest in them while another person is present. She might turn you down not cause she's not interested,but simply to not look "easy" in front of the third party.

The one thing I can say with 100% CERTAINCY is this.....

THE MORE YOU GO UP THERE AND HANG OUT WITH HER WITHOUT ASKING HER OUT,THE GREATER THE CHANCE YOU'LL END UP GETTING FRIENDZONED.


So either try to catch her alone so you can go ahead and ask her out.....or just STOP going up there. You "hanging out" with her without showing sexual interest is gonna get you friendzoned.

You'd be better off asking her out and getting turned down than doing what you're currently doing.
 

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Igetit! said:
Well generally speaking,you SHOULD NOT ask a girl out in front of her boss.....or ANY OTHER PERSON for that matter. For some reason (maybe social),chicks act weird when a guy shows interest in them while another person is present. She might turn you down not cause she's not interested,but simply to not look "easy" in front of the third party.
Yeah I agree about not asking her out in front of the boss but the comment about any other person is RETARDED. Who gives a flying fucck about others? Especially some random stranger who is most probably not on your side anyway.
 

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Espi said:
yes that is solid advice.

OP realize that average to good looking women Will almost always have a man or a woman orbiting around them. a gorgeous woman very rarely ever find herself alone - this includes work, parties, etc...Financially, socially. if I were you I would go in and immediately ask her to join you for coffee. When she asks now? Say sure. you have to be willing to walk away and risk losing her. you are a borderline beta orbiter right now.

This is pretty much where it's at. You need to keep escalating with beautiful women and always push for more with each interaction. Stagnating is affordable at times, but best case it does just that for you, stagnate. Worse case it tears away at your chances.

For that reason only, constant escalation is the most profitable move to make.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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