Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
omkara said:has anyone ever done this? I'm on a liver cleanse thing and not drinking right now. But I like the night life and it's key to my dating schematics.
I would like to think that I could continue dating as before and just drink coke instead. Sort of the best of both worlds.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
cool thanks man. I will try it and do a field report on it.Iceberg said:I couldn't imagine it being a problem.
It could be a good conversation topic too. Go for it.
haha good one. So did you ask the girl to a bar or just meet her there for the first time?Mike32ct said:It's not an issue. I use this a lot:
HB: You're just drinking Coke?
Mike: Yeah I'm taking it easy tonight.
HB: Really?
Mike: Yeah I'm gonna start out with a Coke. Then later I'm gonna drink the hard sh@t like .....Pepsi lol.
It always get a laugh.
Well that is what I am thinking. It really should not matter in most cases. There was a guy here who posted recently about drinking water while watching a girl get drunk in a bar.OnTheWayUp said:. I can't think of a single girl who has ever reacted badly to me not drinking.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I've used that line in both scenarios. It's a non-issue with the girl generally.omkara said:haha good one. So did you ask the girl to a bar or just meet her there for the first time?