"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Asking a girl if she has a boyfriend, can it bite me in the arse?

Shivastorm_88

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Or should I keep assuming that she's single?

Quick background: Met this chick at my wall climbing gym, she always climbs with her brother, I got her number, I'm going to go climb today and after that we're hitting it off somewhere else... Is it a good idea to casually ask her if she has a boyfriend?

e.g.: Just curious, do you only climb with your brother, or also with friends or with your boyfriend?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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joe henny

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OMFG. Are you serious right now? If she is up in your face then obviously she must want something!! So why in the fvck would you need to ask bout that. If she does then youll make her feel guilty. Just be happry you got a girl in yo face home boy
 

Shivastorm_88

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joe henny said:
OMFG. Are you serious right now? If she is up in your face then obviously she must want something!! So why in the fvck would you need to ask bout that. If she does then youll make her feel guilty. Just be happry you got a girl in yo face home boy
Sounds good, thanks.

And yes I was serious, although the answer is what I assumed... I'm still new to the dating game, still learning the what and what not, still making a lot of mistakes, but I figured asking an easy question here would be a lot better than making a mistake that could backfire on me
 

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Yeah homie don't ask her what ever you do don't ever ever ask her. I learned that the hard way a long time ago
 

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My advice:
Always assume she is single and interested, unless she obviously isn't.

And I wouldn't ask if she has a boyfriend becaude if she wants you too know, then she'll tell you and what if she says "Yes, I do." then what are you going to do, chicken out?

Dont ask, besides even if she does have a boyfriend, if you play your cards right she'll cheat on him with you.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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