"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Asking a classmate out

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I want to ask this hot girl out in one my class, we have one class together in one week, i haven't talked to her yet, I felt with her hotnese, she must've have a boyfriend... we have 3 weeks left for this semister...

now here is the thing:

1) IF I start talking to her NOW, talking on msn, phone, etc, found out she has a boyfriend, then I feel embrassed to see her in class, because I asked her if she has a boyfriend.

2) IF I wait till the semister over and talk to her, that would be too late, especially we both in different program,,,

:(
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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approach and say "Ive been to nervous all year to talk to you, but now i just said **** it and came over here to ask you out"
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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tom121

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actually the semister started this 2005 January :D

we speak the same language, from the same country, I want to approach her so bad, but when I look at her I get nervous...

today in the afternoon, we had different class, I was talking on the phone near a bathroom, when I turned around I saw her looking down, I wasn't sure if it was a "eww dont look at him" or "im too shy to look at him" :(
 

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Here's the thing... You don't know unless you do.... IF you don't do ****... nothings gonna happen.

A great man once said "You fail 100% of the times you dont try."

Your obviously new as hell to this site.... and if not.... the AFC in you, is NEVER going away
 

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Ooohhhh god you were here 4 months before me, and have posted twice as many posts.... what the hell....
 

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read the damn bible.

the only reason you're nervous is cause u know for a fact u want to fvck her. Now if you didnt have that agenda, im sure there'd be no problems talking to her.

Just stop analyzing and grab your balls.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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PRMoon

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hmmm you have 284 post... This is a joke right? You're totally yanking our chain, am I right?
 

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Originally posted by PRMoon
hmmm you have 284 post... This is a joke right? You're totally yanking our chain, am I right?
There is honestly no way this guy is serious... maybe he's high....
 

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tom u seriously need to have some more confidence and get rid of the one-itis

You need to read the bible and practice DJing by talking to other girls

you still behave as if you just joined this forum

"grab some balls and approach"

"no fear of rejection"
 

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i have urges that i can't control, i can get very horny easily, maybe its my male hormone

i can get laid with 2 ladies right now, but probably like couple times a month, but i want a relationship and at the same time I want to have sex too
 

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Originally posted by tom121
i have urges that i can't control, i can get very horny easily, maybe its my male hormone

i can get laid with 2 ladies right now, but probably like couple times a month, but i want a relationship and at the same time I want to have sex too
Just a small question!

Isn`t better to build a "rapport" before asking her out?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Listen,

the next time you guys are in class together, on your way out, when class is over, wait around and leave the room when she does, approach her and say "I'll walk you to your next class."

She may not have a next class, it doesn't matter. If she's leaving then say "I'll walk you to the outside door or your car or whatever."

On the way make a comment on the class that day, if it was awesome say "that was a fun time in class wasn't it?", if it was boring say "I thought I was going to die of boredom in there today, how about you"? [THIS IS SMALL TALK]

Now the next words out of your mouth should be "You know you seem like a cool girl we should do something fun together sometime" Wait for her response, and continue the convo from there. [THIS IS BUILDING RAPPORT]

When you get to the destination, say "Give me your number so I can contact you later, do you like bowling?

Maybe she doesn't like bowling, but if she likes you she will give you the number.
 
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Why are you worried about showing her your manhood? SO what if she sees you in class after asking her out? You're not aloud to ask women out?? I don't understand? If she acts negatively to you're advances it's cus she's worthless and not deserving of your time. If anything SHE is the one thats gonna be embarrased cus she rejected you passively as you actively initiated something with her.......come on man THINK like a dj.
 

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Here's what I'd do in that situation.

On a piece of paper I would write, "How do you feel about guys in your classes asking you out for coffee?"

Undernieth I would have a bunch of check boxes. You can make up your own if you'd like.

1. "I have to wash _________ [my hair, my dog's hair, my neighbors welcome mat]"
2. "I have to study for my ... ancient sandscrit exam."
3. "I'm here studying to be a Nun."
4. "It's 5pm, time for Wopner... gotta watch Wopner."
5. " I'd be delighted, here's my email (or number) _______"

Then see what she does.

-Al
 

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Originally posted by Albion4
Here's what I'd do in that situation.

On a piece of paper I would write, "How do you feel about guys in your classes asking you out for coffee?"

Undernieth I would have a bunch of check boxes. You can make up your own if you'd like.

1. "I have to wash _________ [my hair, my dog's hair, my neighbors welcome mat]"
2. "I have to study for my ... ancient sandscrit exam."
3. "I'm here studying to be a Nun."
4. "It's 5pm, time for Wopner... gotta watch Wopner."
5. " I'd be delighted, here's my email (or number) _______"

Then see what she does.

-Al


this is very clever. Have you tried this?
 

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Originally posted by AverageFC
this is very clever. Have you tried this?
I've tried the note thing at a bar/restaraunt and on an airplane. It worked both times. So, I can't see why it wouldn't in class. Never hurts to try.

-Al
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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