"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Asked the woman out- she deletes me off Facebook.

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backbreaker said:
it's no different than sending a propsal to a client who reuses to even have the common courtesy to say no. that person is not worth your time or thought. just move on. "having fun" with them is stooping to an even lower level then them.

You don't make money in business by following up with people like that or telling them how bad they are just to make yourself feel better, you move on to profitable clients. In their mind, all you are doing is justifying to them why they didnt' respond to the first place, so you are actually hurting your cause (see, I knew he was no good).NO different here. just eject her from your mind and move on to profitable woman.

Put it in this perspective. That woman just showed you how piss poor her character is, without having to spend a dime on her without having to dead with her games, without having to give you and withhold sex, without moving in and having a baby with the broad, without all that. you should be thanking her.
Backbreaker this solid like Mike Tyson fit connecting against one of his opponents back in 88

I met a chick on saturday, texted her the next day (I can do that) anyway I asked her if she had a camera phone and she started texting back "how its creepy" (mind you I didn't ask her for a pic just a cam phone) blah blah, she then gives me her FB, but won't add me

It's a waste of my time to hit her up about it much less think about it, since I met her I already got a date lined up for Friday, there to many chicks out there to worry about one

@The guys who saying the OP is creepy and weird

Some of these women are not reasonable like I illustrated in my story, If asking a girl if she has a "camera phone"(not a picture) is creepy, then your already walking a tight rope IMO

Edit: The girl just added me on facebook, Im not gonna sweat her, just sit back and chill....ha ha
 
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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PapiChulo said:
I ve asked a chick out like 3 weeks ago in a nice direct way and made it clear that I am not friends with chicks I dig.
Going off what you told her you don't want anything to do with her anyway. So what reason would she have not take you off her friend's list? She basically called you your bluff. You're trying to tell her you don't need her, but you're actions say the opposite.
 

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does it matter why she took you off facebook? you obviously care more than she does, you've lost.
you have not moved on at all, you're lying.
 

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PapiChulo said:
yeah, thats what I though too. You cant just let it slip, can you.


She could have decency to wait these 2 weeks before removing me.
We get where you are coming from because mostly every guy has chased a girl who treats him with indifference or like sh!t. Although it may be hard to realize things right now, eventually you will see both sides of the argument and it will make you smile and cringe at the same time when you think of your old frame of thought.

You say that she should have the decency of waiting 2 weeks to delete you, while she is on the other side of the argument thinking, "I already rejected him and I am only here two weeks and he is still trying to hit on me"

This is pretty much your situation to a tee. You need to accept that you don't deserve an explanation and cannot expect a woman or to stay in your life because it is the 'decent' thing to do.
 

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Like I said before. Just go spin more plates. A chick deleted me off her facebook for no apparent reason. Am I crying about it? Hell no. One less for me to deal with.

OP, there's too many chicks out there, it's all a numbers game.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Why you stunting her so hard that you knew she deleted you off her FB. How about this. I challenge you to delete your facebook and try to meet as many women as you can in the next month. We will see how happy you are then.
 

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Guys, thanks for setting me straight on this. My head doesnt work right when I am pissed off.



I ve not been meeting enough of decent women for the last three months, thats the root of all this nonsense.
 

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There's no doubt about it, women will get hyper emotional and unpredictable. There are just so many instances of this, there's no point in trying to keep count or point out particular examples.

It happens. I just chill, since I've seen it happen so many times before. Some girls never forgive you, some can't even remember that they were mad, others are happy you made them mad and think fondly of you for it, and on and on and on and on....
 

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macallik said:
We get where you are coming from because mostly every guy has chased a girl who treats him with indifference or like sh!t. Although it may be hard to realize things right now, eventually you will see both sides of the argument and it will make you smile and cringe at the same time when you think of your old frame of thought.

You say that she should have the decency of waiting 2 weeks to delete you, while she is on the other side of the argument thinking, "I already rejected him and I am only here two weeks and he is still trying to hit on me"

This is pretty much your situation to a tee. You need to accept that you don't deserve an explanation and cannot expect a woman or to stay in your life because it is the 'decent' thing to do.


Thats a killer post, my situation for sure. Thanks for posting that.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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UPDATE: guys it is a simple case of AW as simple as it gets. I ve just reread my post about AWs that I ve created myself but apparently never learned anything from it.

The interest she had was never genuine, she had simply pulled a few strings to see if she had me, thus loving the attention. She is also starved of it because of her timidness. She cuts me off because there is no positive validation anymore, in a rude way because she could not care less. Calling her out on that is useless. Having dealt with so many AWs already, it is the typical way they behave, I just didnt suspect that she could pull this off. Thats why she had felt so wonderfully about herself when I asked her out, and she was giving me dirty stares afterwards during ganji time.

She knows she cant get anything positive out of me anymore, thus I am discarded. See, guys, any woman can be an AW when she has no genuine interest in you. And you know that by gut when she is being fake.

I ve not done anything wrong at all, I ve been beating a dead horse all this time. The best I could have hopped for was being a surrogate boyfriend with no sex.
Thats why it was so hard for me to let it go, because I ve been played and beaten at my own game again!
 

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and dwelling in it is helping you how?
the one who cares most loses... and you certainly the one who cares the most at this point in time.
 

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Actually yes, now I know I am doing something wrong with them cause it happens a lot. It does make feel better. Ha ha.
 

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just move on, there are better girls out there for you :kick:

Any reaction will mean that she won, the best reaction is the one where you do nothing. It will make her wonder wtf and when you see her again in a chance passing, than you must be happy and act like nothing happened.

I only read the OP

- comic_relief
 

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Yeah, I am non-reactive now. She was lookin at me puzzled and her friends are kinda acting out pissy at me. Dont know what that means, but she is gone very soon and I deleted the phone number- no way to contact her, and there is virtually no chance of me running into her. Game over.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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