"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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asked out HB7.3 party girl but no response

pyros

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Hi.

I met this chick HB7.3 (30 years old) at a dancing academy. I just waved hello to her, she seemed receptive so I went there, introduced myself, she told me her name, talked for 2 mins and I left.
Then some days later I found her on FB by accident, so I just wrote some silly thing to her. She replied, seemed again pretty receptive and we talked a bit.

Some days later I bumped into her at this dancing academy again. We talked a bit more, she even started the lesson some minutes late because she was talking to me, we laughed, and it seemed like going well. I was gonna ask her out but before this she told me that she was going on a trip for the weekend so I did not ask her out.

Last night I saw her online on FB. We talked for a couple of minutes, she asked how was my weekend, told me some things, and then I ask her out:
her: I had so much fun this weekend, but I guess I ate something bad because I have stomacache.
me: well, just puke all you need, get some rest, and we can meet some day this week and Ill get you a mineral water.
her: hahahaha, without gas please!

Then she was not connected anymore so I waited for five minutes and since it was late, I went to bed.


What do I do know?
Do I talk to her again to arrange something or do I wait for her to contact me?


Thanks.
 

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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

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The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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SamTheHobit

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Message her.

Please reply.
 

pyros

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Hi
since I may see her again next week or I may not, I just texted her:
me: hey, lets go grab a drink this weekend, tell me your number and we'll set it up.

We'll see.
 

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No offense, but you seem to behave like a stalker and I don't believe you just 'found her on Facebook by accident' as you had so lightly put it.

If I was a woman, I would be thinking that is a bit freaky and stalkish.

Women's #1 fear about men is getting physically raped and attacked/hurt - anything that smells fishy or stalkish is telling a woman:

1) You are stalking

2) You are so desperate that you have to look for her in cyberspace

3) You did not man up and ask her in person for contact info. This severely turns off a lot of women and creates low interest.

Good luck.

Exodus
 

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Yeah I agree, she's 30 years old dude, not some young little 20 something. You should have asked her out face to face when you saw her. "Let's go out and grab some drinks" is all you have to say. You're being way to timid and you have to act fast before she gets creeped out.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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pyros

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GotED? man...you're the stalker.
I found her on FB because she's friends with a friend of mine, so she was a 'recommended friend by FB'.

Next time think it twice dude.
 
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