“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Asked out by hottie at work

ngdonjuan

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Ok, so I was talking about my clubbing experience with a few of my co workers in front of hot coworker C. And hot co worker C was like, oh I wish I knew about that I love going dancing and stuff. So I kind of teased her a bit, but she was like let me know when you go next time.

Later that night we go out as a group to a bar, on her way out she asks for my phone and puts her number in. It means nothing to me though, she's the troublemaking flirty type that flirts with every guy. And for that reason I'm not emotionally attached to her or am not set on making her a gf. But I want to use her for target practice. Reserve your comments about this being a coworker, I work in a young hip environment where everything goes and we don't work too closely with one another.

I've failed with this type before as they are the most difficult and like to manipulate guys. But they do form relationships with the skilled ahole type. I want to see what I can do when there's a fresh slate knowing way more now then ever before. And I've had a year of success with less difficult girls.

Fast forward to today and she shoots me a message inviting me to meet her at a club tonight. Who knows if she's going alone or not but she knows the DJ.

If I were to be my old self and fail at this I would simply say yes, go and probably find her vying for the attention of every other guy there and end up being disappointed that she doesn't take to my advances.

I'm almost thinking I should not go and say some other plans came up long story and make her wonder... She knows I'm single but no more detail than that. I want to make her jealous or more interested somehow. I could also leverage the fact that she's not number 1 on my list. More like number 3.

Some advice would be appreciated... I'm actually pretty excited because the power is still in my hands with this.

Thanks,

-ngdonjuan
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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ngdonjuan

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Anyway the reason I would not want to go is because if I do, it lowers my social status by showing I don't have something better to do, it gives her dominance because she picked the place and I'm going along with it, etc...

That's not the message I want to send.

-ngdonjuan
 

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if yuo honestly want to go but don't want to see like you are desperate say something in response like

"convince me why i should drop what i'm doing and come see you at a club. what's in it for me?"

if she says anything other than "ill make it worth your while" or something alone those lines i'd not go. and then when she asks why you didn't go tell her babe i got **** to do lol. you aren't bad but id on't have time to play games and you were playing games last night. you can either come correct or don't come at all beucase i assure you i don't have the time to play around.

if she likes you and awnts to get to know you shew ill make it clear she wants to see you "like that" then when you get there, you don't even have to pretend to not be interested you can just go for the kill.. if she says something like "oh beucase i'm hot" or beucase " you know you like me" or "beucase i'm me" or some **** like that = next
 

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Just tell the girl you like her and wanna be with her. What's she going to do? Be angry at you?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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ngdonjuan said:
Anyway the reason I would not want to go is because if I do, it lowers my social status by showing I don't have something better to do, it gives her dominance because she picked the place and I'm going along with it, etc...

That's not the message I want to send.

-ngdonjuan
Talk about over-thinking a simple situation. If she is AT ALL attracted to you, those silly thoughts in your head about bullsh1t "DJ" crap and "maintaining the frame" :)crackup:) won't matter.

Guys, stop focusing on applying very specific DJ principles and look at things as a whole. Don't get DJ tactics/philosophy tunnel vision.

Go out with her, project sexual energy and try to escalate. If it doesn't work, you know you don't have a shot and move on to the next target. Not every girl is going to be into you and this one sounds like a flake.

So don't get your hopes up.
 
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