"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Asked her out too casually?

NotAgain

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Thanks all, every little thought you guys have put have been great insight for me honestly!

So I asked her out and made it sound too casual as if it was 2 friends whom had not caught up in awhile. She said yes though. Anyway how can I fix this and show her that this is an actual date? Cheers.
 

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Aaron B

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if its you and her one-on-one, its a date

feel free to playfully tease her about it not being a date, however

"this isn't a date" is a card that either of you can play. if you play it first, now she is reacting to you. if you leave it for her to play, now you are reacting to her

this also helps show that you aren't needy and desperate and dependent on the outcome. additionally, while she suspects you like her, she isn't quite sure yet
 

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No!!!

state the intent of the "date" to her. But do it once you meet her in person.

Say something fun like "I asked to hang with you cos I do fancy you by the way!"

If delivered cheeky and fun, then it will go down a treat!
 

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Aaron B said:
if its you and her one-on-one, its a date

feel free to playfully tease her about it not being a date, however

"this isn't a date" is a card that either of you can play. if you play it first, now she is reacting to you. if you leave it for her to play, now you are reacting to her

this also helps show that you aren't needy and desperate and dependent on the outcome. additionally, while she suspects you like her, she isn't quite sure yet
Do what he says. You can NEVER be too casual, as being all serious usually drives women away. Please, dont confuse being direct with being too serious. Whatever the outcome, it doesnt mean that fun has to stop. Some older women and the uninterested types do require you to state that it is in fact a date. It also depends on what you have been doing with her until this moment, e.i. being sexual. The fact is that if she likes you romantically she will automatically treat it like a date.
 
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