"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Asked her out to beach... says " I'll think about it" what you think?

Zaraza

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Thanks Guys for your opinions

We talked, the weather is gonna be crap, its gonna rain all day so were not going. We're just gonna stay in the city.

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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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ucmedv8

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If you told her that you would talk to her tomorrow, then call her.

You have to be aware that when you ask a girl to the beach that this may put some of her insecurities front and center. Insecurities like unwanted body hair, love handles, scars, etc. She may also suspect that you're a perv that just wants to see her in a bathing suit. I think for this reason, I've been rejected on the beach date. Is this the first date? The couple times I was rejected on the beach date was on a first date and second date. The second date chick actually turned into an LTR and we ended up going to the beach often later in the relationship. Some girls just need to feel comfortable with you before going to the beach.

On the other hand, I've had a few first time and second time dates to the beach. So I think it just varies with the girls comfortability level with the dude and her handling of her own body insecurities.

Call her and see if she offers a different date idea or if she rejects the beach you should offer a different date venue. If she rejects the new offer then move on, she's not interested. Good luck!:up:
 

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Let her think about it.


Cheers!
 
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