asked girl out week ago, rejected, friend says try again

[ohiobohio518]

I got this girl's number because we were vibing pretty well, and asked her to lunch 3 days later for the following day. She gave me a legitimate excuse (out of town for the weekend, confirmed) and said that she'd like to go maybe some other time. She didn't sound very enthusiastic, and didn't give a counteroffer, so I nexted her.

A week later, I was talking to her friend and she told me to ask her to lunch again.

It's been a week since I asked said girl to lunch. Would it be too late if I called her tomorrow? Do you think I should trust her friend?

 

[Dole]

Nothing to lose and maybe something to gain.

 

[Jitterbug]

Yeah, do it again. It's only 2 mins of your time. Probably less than the time it took you to post here and ask.

 

[Max Power]

What do you mean by, "She didn't sound interested?"

 

[ohiobohio518]

by "she didnt sound interested" ... i mean.. you know when a girl is glad to hear from you. the tone of her voice. it was very monotonous, very different from how she was 3 days ago.

anyway, ur all right, i should stop wasting time adn call her

 

[Dole]

Update us with the results.

 

[DonJuan11]

I got this girl's number because we were vibing pretty well, and asked her to lunch 3 days later for the following day. She gave me a legitimate excuse (out of town for the weekend, confirmed) and said that she'd like to go maybe some other time.

A week later, I was talking to her friend and she told me to ask her to lunch again.

It's been a week since I asked said girl to lunch. Would it be too late if I called her tomorrow?

First of all, why are you telling her friend you asked her out? Her friend could be going back to her and telling her everything about you. It's nobody's business. It won't be too late to call again but she has to counter this time or else you tell her to call you when she's ready to have lunch and you'll see if you can make it.

 

[volkme68]

YOU ARE OVERTHINKING THIS. Nothing to lose. Is your ego so frail that you can't risk rejection twice? Come on man.

 

[ohiobohio518]

First of all, why are you telling her friend you asked her out? Her friend could be going back to her and telling her everything about you.

I didn't tell her...... the girl told her. This is natural, girls tell their friends everytghign.

 

[Jitterbug]

YOU ARE OVERTHINKING THIS. Nothing to lose. Is your ego so frail that you can't risk rejection twice? Come on man.

The first time wasn't a rejection. He just thought that it was.

 

[volkme68]

So you also knwo that girls use there friends to tell the guys they like everything thta they are afraid to say in person, kind of liek most little boys do in 4th grade when they get their first crush. What does her tone have to do with on the phone then? For all you know, her dog just got put to sleep befor eyou called. It would be hard for me to be jolly if my dog was exterminated.

 

[volkme68]

Jitterbug, I agree, that was my point. I know that i can't always hang with a chick when I want to, nor do I always want to. That doesn't mean that I am not into her, just that she isn't the center of my existance. This is the same with most people, male or female. you may by a DJ, but that doesn't change the fact that she has a life too.

 

[Jitterbug]

you may by a DJ, but that doesn't change the fact that she has a life too.

Precisely. There are times when I don't sound very enthusiastic on the phone even to people I really like. It could be that I'm concentrating on work or I've had a bad day, and my mind just isn't into the interaction with that person on the phone. Women can be the same.

 

[ohiobohio518]

hahahaha ok.. lets stop bashing me. i get the point. i am goign to call her tomorrow.