"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Asked coworker out finally..she said yes!

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So I finally asked the attractive co worker out to see a show. She told me she would love to go and we will be going out next week. :) I noticed after asking her out she would come stop by and chat for over an hour with me regarding work/family/hobbies overall great experience. I told her to keep it between us and she said of course. I am thinking about escalating to kino during the date (holding hand, light touching etc) if anyone else has other advice let me know...thanks for all the tips so far
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

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If anything goes wrong, keep it civil.

you don't want to be losing your job over this. (in a worst case scenario of course)
 

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Be careful.

A guy I know has an ex-wife that works in the same floor as home literally, like they work together and they hate each other's guts.

Most awkward situation ever and this guy is practically a PUA he knows the game and he chases skirts like any other dude is.
 

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Thanks for the advice everyone...it is just something about her like the usual girls i go for are good looking and thats all..this one is pretty, tall, skinny dresses nice has a good career and focused...I am talking to a couple of other girls at the moment just to keep options open incase are date isnt that great next week.

Game plan is to pick her up, compliment her, convo.. hold hand either walking to the show or exiting the show..and if everything is smooth go for a kiss at the end of night and plan for another date
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I am thinking about escalating to kino during the date (holding hand, light touching etc) if anyone else has other advice let me know...thanks for all the tips so far
You still haven't touched her? That is a worrysome. Don't wait for a date to start touching women. A random tap on the arm/shoulder for just a second is enough.
Game plan is to pick her up, compliment her, convo.. hold hand either walking to the show or exiting the show..and if everything is smooth go for a kiss at the end of night and plan for another date
She has done nothing to earn your compliments yet. Don't get ahead of yourself brother you don't want to be seen as a nice guy.

The only compliment you should give a woman is telling her she looks sexy (not cute, not beautiful but SEXY). That shows sexual interest in her/women love it/keeps you out of the friend zone. It's the only compliment I use (and it has always worked). I don't compliment women on nothing else :D

When it comes to holding hands that is just really played out and old fashioned. Women even find it creepy now a days for a guy to want to hold their hand on a first date or whatever. You are better served by touching her 20 times during the date (whether tap on shoulder, hand on shoulder or arm etc etc) than holding hands. Constant kino throughout the date is better than walking around holding hands.
 

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bruceartest24 said:
Thanks for the advice everyone...it is just something about her like the usual girls i go for are good looking and thats all..this one is pretty, tall, skinny dresses nice has a good career and focused...I am talking to a couple of other girls at the moment just to keep options open incase are date isnt that great next week.

Game plan is to pick her up, compliment her, convo.. hold hand either walking to the show or exiting the show..and if everything is smooth go for a kiss at the end of night and plan for another date
Congrats on the date situation.

A - Don't stress yourself out with overplanning. You're going out with her with the intention of having a fun night. The more pressure you put on yourself, the less likely you are to make a move.

B - Hand-holding is for high schoolers.

C - You're going to do great. Relax.
 

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bruceartest24 said:
So I finally asked the attractive co worker out to see a show. She told me she would love to go and we will be going out next week. :) I noticed after asking her out she would come stop by and chat for over an hour with me regarding work/family/hobbies overall great experience. I told her to keep it between us and she said of course. I am thinking about escalating to kino during the date (holding hand, light touching etc) if anyone else has other advice let me know...thanks for all the tips so far
I usually don't recommend this - I've been there and done that and haven't had a ton of great experiences.

Your thread titled suggested it took you a while to finally ask her. Can you describe how long it's taken / what the relationship was like / and how you actually asked her?
 

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We been coworkers for a couple a months but I didn't ask her because we were both new and I was talking to someone else...I just asked what she was doing on the weekend and let her know i have tickets to a show and wanted to know if she would be interested..she said she would love to and that is very sweet of me asking.
 
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