Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Ask yourself: "What do I want?"

djbr

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I don't know about you guys, but sometimes when I try to ask myself this question I get into a little trouble.

For years I've been trained to forget about myself and my needs and desires, and put the focus on other people, be it women, family, etc.

The first shift in DJ thinking comes from putting the focus on yourself, your needs, desires and everything that relates to YOU. After all, you're in earth for the benefit of yourself, not anyone else. If you try to change this, be prepared to become a frustrated, joyless creature.

So, when you're with a woman, ask this question. When you're bored, ask this question. When someone asks you to do something, ask this question. You will find the answer to do whatever makes you happy, just because it's what *YOU* want.

cheers,
djbr.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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