"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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mustfirstregister

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Asking her out on day2 or day3 ....what you think of the following:



DEFINITELY DON'T SAY "hang out with me". Make sure its clear that you're asking her on a date. Depending on what she was like, heres how to ask her out:

Shy/nerdy/religious: play sweet and innocent. "oh hey i really like you so would you want to go for dinner one night?"

Sl*tty/s*xy: play hot. "i cant stop thinking about you. Wanna see a movie some time?"

Cute/sweet: play safe and polite. This is thr kind of girl thats worth it. "hey id really like to go out with you sometime, you can choose where we go"

Best of luck
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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btownbuck2012

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My opinion on all of this:

I go direct and fast. "Hey I think you're really cute. Are you single?"

If she says yes than I ask for her digits and bolt. Also, I call her back within 24 hours. I don't give a fvck what ANYONE says. This "play it mysterious" garbage is overrated. You know why? Most guys rarely even THINK about approaching and when they do they are so nervous they get no results. You have to think about this whole thing in a mass type quantity. Approach, approach, approach. If a girl is interested she'll answer your texts, call you back, and go out with you. The first time you spend some time with her is your opportunity to turn the heat up, make a connection with her, and ultimately make a move.

Therefore, yes, I agree that you should quit with the "hey let's hang out sometime" stuff, but you need to be approaching a lot of girls and going in direct. There's no time to beat around the bush. If she likes you, than she likes you. If she doesn't than she doesn't. You move on. Doesn't matter if she's shy, nerdy, outgoing, hot, black, white, orange, etc. You just keep approaching.
 

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Completely disagree.

First of all, don't tell her "I really like you / I can't stop thinking about you, etc." It's important to let a girl know you want her, but you do this through your physical actions (deep eye contact, kino, kissing, sex and so on). Not through empty words, as these will make you look needy.

Second of all, you don't ask a girl if she wants to do something with you. You tell her that you are doing so-and-so and that she should come along if she wants to have some fun. Asking her out directly sounds needy. The DJ is the Great Catch and doesn't bother with asking because he knows all girls want to hang out with him - and if they don't they are stupid and don't realize what they are missing. And anyways, the DJ doesn't care if a particular girl doesn't show up because he has a ton of girls just begging to replace her.
 

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oy vey

Ask leading questions that don't ahve a specific answer and tell a girl you're going somewhere and she should come out an meet you.

Asking for permission is a big no-no because you're giving up the power.
 
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