Ask her out in person or phone? hard to tell girl's IL as usual

[ScrewIt]

as being on this board, i realized you cant wait for signs, and there are times where signs may not be what you think....so hell why not?

Ok this is my situation, i got class with this HB8 1x each week and i sit next to her. i've had her #(she has mine too) since the beginning of the semester, but back then i had no real interst in her. ( we have each other's #'s for other reasons)

Anyway, so far each week i did a little kino and slapping her on the back. (past few weeks no kino) and occasionally she'd call me mean and stuff. times when i tease her and stuff she'd give me a big smile.

today in class i got the most biggest smiles from her ever!
went over to her from behind....in a deep low tone "hey got any answers for me?" glance over and go back to my business.

then later on, "hey sexy, what've u got for me?" (checking for answers for inclass assignment) then she says "ooohh trying to be sweet huh?" (as in "trying to get answers by giving a compliment?")with a big smile. "next time you gotta be even sweeter if u wanna get them."

then she leaves class before me, then i go "aww you leavin so soon?" her "yea" then i pack my stuff and leave after her, when we're on the 1st floor, she glances back to me and gives me a big smile again. end of day.

anybody got clue to her IL?
so the big question, ask in person or phone? and give her 1 or 2 options for date days?

 

[Tails]

Originally posted by ScrewIt
then later on, "hey sexy, what've u got for me?" (checking for answers for inclass assignment) then she says "ooohh trying to be sweet huh?" (as in "trying to get answers by giving a compliment?")with a big smile. "next time you gotta be even sweeter if u wanna get them."

you missed a chance right there.

her: next time you gotta be even sweeter if u wanna get them.
you: well then how about we go on a date so i can show you some of that sweetness? (with a grin).

by then, you'd know if she was really interested in you or not and you wouldn't have to worry about her so much anymore. she'll either say yes, or no. if she thinks you're kidding, tell her you're not. and then comes the end of your wondering if she'll have you or not.

 

[ScrewIt]

actually that sounded like a good idea, had i thought of that sooner.

now the day's over. should i ask her out next time in class or phone her within these next few days?

what's awkward is that me and her were in the same j.h.s. and h.s. but never ever had class together. only got to know her this yr

 

[Tails]

ask her out in person (class) - you don't need the phone for that since you know her well enough now and see her often. you and her seem to get along fine with all that joking around. it's almost too easy! she has probably given you alot of chances to ask her... you had better ask her real soon otherwise she will get bored of you and move on to another guy, and then you're in her friends catagory. and that is hard to change.

and stop making days to ask her out or planning it. it should be natural, whenever given the chance, then ask her, don't sit there trying to talk to her making her talk back hoping for something to get you started. just let it happen on it's own, like what i said to do, that was naturally happening.

if you really want, get into a conversation with her about some of the work you're doing in class or another class, talk about how you hate it or like it, talk about a movie you saw maybe, tell her it was good... then tell her something like.

"hey, that reminds me, let's go see a movie together sometime."

only ask that if you know her well. her likes, dislikes, hobbies/interests. if you don't know that, movie isn't a good thing... try a walk along the beach.

and stop trying to think of this girl so much... i know how it is, you like her, you think she likes you. you're at home thinking about what you should say on monday, tuesday, whatever. just enjoy yourself when you're not with her. don't think about it so much, it'll happen on it's own.

 

[fukuy]

who cares about the bi*ch's IL. Just shoot the question and you ' ll find out. plus ya got nothing to lose anyway.

 

[Rallfus]

dude that's your in. The homework or whatever. instant rapport. "let's go to XXXX and dicuss this futher"

But give her the look like "I ain't talking bout no stinking homework"

She'll get the message.

 

[ScrewIt]

Originally posted by Tails

and stop trying to think of this girl so much... i know how it is, you like her, you think she likes you. you're at home thinking about what you should say on monday, tuesday, whatever. just enjoy yourself when you're not with her. don't think about it so much, it'll happen on it's own. [/B]

actually i dont ever think about her, it's just fun to see and tease her in class. and just see her big smile. everything that happens in class between me and her is just natural, im never nervous around her (or desperate).

but it would seem like a good opportunity to get to know her better if we went on a date. i dont know a lot about her...only a little bit of stuff she's told me so far.
but yea i will ask her out next time i see her, and since im not really into her, a rejection wouldnt bug me one bit.

 

[Tails]

why are you posting here if you don't think about her? lol.

 

[Rallfus]

Originally posted by Tails
why are you posting here if you don't think about her? lol.

hehe. yes!

 

[ScrewIt]

lol. it doesnt matter if i think about her or not!!

the goal is to ask her out to get to know her better!! plus she's got a nice bod

 

[Locke]

try to avoid doing these things in person. it shows a lot more confidence to do it in person.