in private, she was the ****tail waitress, she declines and than about fifteen minutes later she comes over to the bar and tells me in front of two or three other guys within earshot, "Im kind of seeing somebody and thanks for asking." I found it kind of strange she did this in front of losers row, where they had the opportunity to hear yet another guy get rejected when I purposely got her alone and away from people in the bar to ask for her number and expected the same courtesy which I wasn't given. Anybody else deal with a biatch like this? I know for a fact that the guys within earshot were also rejected by her in the weeks preceding this. Sounds like a big ego on a girl that is basically a 7 on the scale.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Ask for a girls ph #
- Thread starter sicsec
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
backseatjuan
Banned
Doesn't matter if she's a 7, an 8, 9, 10 or 6, or 5, or 4, or 3, or 2, or 1. She's not single, she's seeing someone. Her rejecting you and any other guy, while she's not single, just means that she's an excellent chick, and that much more respect to her. You could have said to her in front of those dudes that it's nice, and that how it's suppose to be.
Damian
Senior Don Juan
Don't read too much into the verbiage of how somebody turns you down. It's not easy to say "NO" and still be nice, and most girls honestly have no idea how to do it.
This girl who you met seems nice. She could have been trying to be clean and candid with you and respecting you as a man. Yes, she rejected you, but she is at least trying to be friendly about it by thanking you for the flattery.
On the other hand, she COULD just be a cold calculating genius ***** who is so dysfunctional and sociopathic that she revels in publicly humiliating perfectly normal, courteous guys.
I don't see the point in spending time analyzing exactly HOW somebody rejected you. She said 'no' in a relatively nice way and felt like she had to explain herself. Women are not mathematical functions. For every behavior there could be any number of causes, reasons, and rationale.
Don't waste time thinking about it when you could be spending time getting to know somebody who is actually available.
This girl who you met seems nice. She could have been trying to be clean and candid with you and respecting you as a man. Yes, she rejected you, but she is at least trying to be friendly about it by thanking you for the flattery.
On the other hand, she COULD just be a cold calculating genius ***** who is so dysfunctional and sociopathic that she revels in publicly humiliating perfectly normal, courteous guys.
I don't see the point in spending time analyzing exactly HOW somebody rejected you. She said 'no' in a relatively nice way and felt like she had to explain herself. Women are not mathematical functions. For every behavior there could be any number of causes, reasons, and rationale.
Don't waste time thinking about it when you could be spending time getting to know somebody who is actually available.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Next time when a girl does that to you, do what I do and tell her "I don't give a sh@t.. I was amusing myself with the prettiest face in the room. Now get lost, you're blocking my view" Make sure there's another girl to womanize in sight, or else this will not work.
the girl was giving me tons of attention an hour before this at the bar checking out my package through my shorts and other kinds of signs of interest. I don't know if she was teasing or what or expected me to naturally ask for her digits right there and than originally.....I used to be on top of it all with stuff like this...guess im slipping ...or another case of a **** tease in a bar.