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Aside from the law, why are young women illegal?

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I'll present the position. Follow-up with commentary.

Why are women under 18 illegal? Or even 17? Say 15?

I'm not hailing from the perspective of a pedophile, but a legitimate QUESTION from a mid-20's poster. It's rather rhetorical, because there's LUNACY inherent in such things. But here's my take...

Laws range from 15-18, depending on the state. Abroad, ages might be lower, but penalties harsher.

There was a time and place, when women were LESS physically developed, YET, they had children. They married. They cared for a home/house. They dated. Of course, they waited, but in 'talks' with great-grandmothers and others, it was a known fact great grandmothers had kids at what are extremely young ages compared with current generations. Currently, it's nearly 10 years later, literally WASTING good reproduction years.

Adding blocks to my defense, girls have their first menstrual cycle near 13, some younger, some older. This is Nature's way of saying, "You're Ready to have offspring." One contests that, a girl of such an age CANNOT mentally handle having kids at such an age. I contest that NO one is ever ready. Granted, I have not personally had children, BUT, have been bed-side for many births, and friends with too few dolts who father illegitimate children. That said...

Nature states she is ready at 13 or so. It might be a grizzly image, BUT, this is only so because society has said such. It never WAS this way.

Why did the laws become enacted?
Why, when women are MORE physically developed, with MORE schooling, are they are waiting SO long to have kids? Or consecrate relationships?

One Theory:

Pushing the age forth allowed schooling to dismantle the family unit. If girls' weren't engaging in serious, monogamous relationships EARLY, or having kids young, they could be in school LONGER, and would be impressionable to a host of OTHER beliefs, feelings, and values, that she would have gained from a husband or father.

Sound like a farce? I'll be prepared to repeatedly post here to back such claims.

Not only does the Employment Age Law ruin the apprenticeships of young boys, who gained valuable experience at a young age (which was echoed by Rockefellar and Morgan that aided in their fortunes), but it results in MORE immaturity amongst boys, the sense that boyhood lasts LONGER, prolonging the immaturity cycle, perhaps forever.

Ask yourself: What's the best way to get ahead? To gain wealth? To decide upon a career occupation?

APPRENTICESHIP.
INTERNSHIP.

Working for real, such experience FAR more valuable than pure education. It's the internship/apprenticeship that LENDS itself to requiring EDUCATION and RESEARCH, not the reverse. HOWEVER, the system itself is EDUCATION first, then WORK. WRONG. Education and research are NECESSITIES of work. Until you are actually working, you cannot know what education/training you need, or even IF you need. Hence the great plight of the indebted masses of millions of college students.

I find it odd, that, we had child labor in factories, at possibly the most dangerous point, and yet, we now have very, very safe labor, but kids put off working until 15. As if working EARLIER than 15 would harm the child. Directly the opposite, it builds self-confidence, advances one's ability years beyond his peers, provides income and skills, as well as direction. The confusion of current and future generations as to purpose, stems from the problem that, work is being romanticized and spiritualized, that no child gains REAL experience until they're 18 or 21, or post college, and most kids WASTE their lives disocvering what it is to do, because they can't learn much about it until they're older.

Coming full turn to women and girls...it was AS IF, we were trying to be protected, by why should we? Is it not our own life? What's the unlikely consequences?

-Kids would KNOW what to do before college.
-Kids wouldn't get public education.
-Kids would become independent thinkers.
-Kids would be with their parents, if at all possible.

Now girls, it seems they're 'freed', and they are, but if they were TRULY free, such laws wouldn't necessarily exist. TO me, the law presupposes a FEW things.

*That men are evil, and would try to coax young women into awkward situations, perhaps leaving a burden on society.
*That young girls can't make correct decisions.
*That they must be protected.

Most guys nowadays can't determine a girl being 18 or 14, truly, and yet we should feel ashamed?

I got onto this topic because research, but also personally, some girls went off the Pill. I'm happy for them. Not only did it cause them to lose weight immediately, but their mental stability changed, they're MORE cautiously sexually, and they have clarity, amongst a HOST of other health and mental benefits. Some guys, who want to FAWK alot, would be disatisfied, BUT, the pill creates these problems guys come here for.

*Girls are more promiscuous on the pill.
*Girls are more careless on the pill, i.e. not using condoms, random partners, forgetting to take it regularly.
*Girls are more emotional, due to the heightened levels of estrogen and nor-estrogen in their blood stream.
*Girls gain weight and likely won't get rid of it. Naturally, women are 5%+ more in bodyweight. Couple that with ADDITIONAL estrogen, and few attempts at weight loss will ever yield success.

Yes, it does have health benefits, as I've known women who went on it to mitigate cramping, erase acne / pimples, grow breasts, regulate menstrual cycles, and so forth. But as nature intended, so shall nature be. Unless human beings are a flawed design in need of science to make us?

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The illegality of the situation regarding young women, just seems to obviously flawed, both on the surface and after research that I wonder why nobody questions it?

It comes down to the medium upon which you are brought up in. Cousins and relatives of mine in rural towns of Maine hover close to the family unit. This is why alot of businesses up their are sole propietorships, or the flip side, people working at Wal-mart, but very minimal hours. Family is first. And as such, kids carry out the tradition. 2 of my own cousins will be married before age 22, 1 already, the other, a female cousin of 19, who did so BEFORE considering college.

The only opponents who consider it DUMB are those who believe she must be a piece of the proletariat, working her butt off for someone else but herself. The argument I hear so often is OTHERS placing their morality on her, or me, or whoever. I in fact heard only a female friend of mine call her "stupid", at which point the line went dead when I hung up. She apologized, but that doesn't erase the fact that an epidemic of MY MORALITY IS BETTER THAN YOUR's is sweeping the nation.

To me, such a topic as Young Women isn't WRONG, and shouldn't be illegal, it's a PERSONAL choice. But the feeling is, we must remain in school for 12-16 years of our early life, giving most of that to state governed schooling, and if girls were involved in relationships, marriages, or child-rearing EARLY, they wouldn't be in school. It might seem unfathomable today that women could birth kids young, BUT, consider that your own family lineage hails from just that: young mothers birthing kids.

You could take the stance that...Well, longevity wasn't what it is. True. People died under 55, and mothers' often died in birth. BUT, if we live LONGER, and we've supposedly made PROGRESS, why can't girls birth kids younger, have MORE kids, and provide MORE for their kids now, than ever before? Changes in science have not changed menstrual cycles or fertility periods. It has allowed a SELECT few men and women to have kids later in life, but only a handfull. And with the population dwindling, it's a wonder WHY the law became law, when the precendent was set BEFORE it.

One would think if we made progress...girls could birth kids younger, to accomplished men, willing to care for their beautiful woman / wife, creating a tight family knit. In the future, she'd find her calling in a career, at an age when her ability to birth children is beyond her. The opposite scream is that fulfillment is found OUTSIDE the family and personal relationships, and rather in the attainment of social status, wealth, material possessions, important personal connections, multitudes of sexual partners, and some ULTIMATELY spiritual career.

Does it?



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Haha, no that's the other guy, probably my twin or my close cousin.


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personally, for anything other that pure sex, i prefer smart, independent, mature women. I'd like to be able to take them to 21 over places as well.

My minimum right now is about 22.
 

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That's nice.
Personal preference.

I've dated an 18 year old, who was 17 when I met her, but physically and socially, she was beyond girls 21 and older.

I brought the topic up to question social standards, which were standards before, but then became outdated and illegal.

Our 'higher consciousness' and the desire to find mates who fit more specific needs, has lead us to seek such particular compatabilities.

This isn't to say ALL men should, or even based on the mentality of current women WOULD, or that it would be wholly healthy for both parties, but that, in doing so, we damaged the maturity of the youth, stymied growth, and demolished personal freedom.


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Interesting points

I think society's definition of "maturity" comes into play here.

Society has decided when children reach maturity. Many have decided that 18 is the beginning of maturity, while others have decided on age 21. School may come into play for this decision, but I somewhat doubt that. I think that pedophiles have more to do with that decision (regarding sex anyway). When it comes to smoking and drinking, ability to support those vices come into play. I believe these two are based on education. Raising children can be done at a young age because of social assistance, and the minimal age of the workforce being around 15.

Honestly, from seeing how young girls act, 25 should be the minimal age for women :D
From pure observation, their maturity doesn't seem to develope until they're in their mid-20s.

However, I also notice that when a young girl becomes a mother, they are forced to become more mature just by the position they're in.
 

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Originally posted by Egoist
aren't you the guy who thinks career women are evil, and womans only place is in the kitchen?
Aren't you the guy who doesn't belong posting here since you're under 25?
 

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Originally posted by Kid Quick
Aren't you the guy who doesn't belong posting here since you're under 25?
hey im ALMOST 25.. :eek:

but according to A-Unit's philosophy i can probably be very mature for my age.

regardless, i probably have more experience than many guys on here, in many facets of life.
 

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There's a 'reason' for this delay in maturity. There was a purpose to doing it.

Delaying or totally eradicating the instances that enabled growth leaves a person perpetually DEPENDENT on something, or someone else.

Girls are LESS mature now at older ages BECAUSE of the social structure around them. They're LESS classy, less demure, more manly. More exhibitionist. Be what you may, but trying to cover up what's happening by calling it FREEDOM or being EXPRESSIVE is an egregious misrepresentation of the facts. Packing shyt in a Louie Vouton bag is still shyt. Just like girls acting like social pornstars are being skanky and promiscuous. The difference is social rules protect this behavior since girls of such age can't engage in anything UNTIL they're old enough.

I would say, FREEDOM to anyone person to do what they please, but the fact remains, everything is being 'coaxed' to some end, mostly what we have before us. A society of robots who rarely, if ever, interconnect, except sexually. Even passing by in streets, most don't do it. People's BIGGEST fear is public speaking, not death. Which only adds evidence to this social coaxing.

Were attitudes and choices purely free, what would people choose?

What do people desire MOST?

I can side with the guys who are so embittered by the explosion of their marriage due to their problems, but being rocked in society.

I don't believe decisions or live is entirely devoid of the coaxing by social elites who seek to control and profit by dumbing down its own citizens, and enslaving them to corporate work, adopted centuries ago in a fledgling America by young idealist utopian visionaries.



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Imagine what would happen to wages if all women quit their jobs tomorrow. If women are half the workforce, wages would more than double due to the ensuing labor shortage. Corporate America has enjoyed modern Feminism.

On the legal aspect, the harshest aspect of it is that statutory rape is a strict liability crime. There are no excuses. Even if she has a fake ID that would fool anyone, you are still just as guilty as if you knew she was underage.
 

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those girls who were younger and had children and married earlier , when there were not laws about age, were women who had very hard lives married to men who had very hard lives.

they killed their own food or grew it. they sewed their own clothes and built homes with two hands and had a horse if they were lucky. they went to town for church and to go the the only market to buy fabric or sell eggs.

they churned their own butter and read by candle light and they slept sound at night.

their generation died young.

this was the late 1800s and early 1900s .( imagine laura ingals / helen keller days.)

girls today , boys today, society today,technology today and life today, none of it is the same. there is no going back to yesterday.
 

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re. why are young women illegal: basically, for the same reason that ass-pirate-try was illegal until recently. It is the prevailing mood of the land, and it may change. Who knows, maybe one day relations with young women (say 14-18) will be as accepted (and ecouraged) as ass-clown-ism is today.

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Originally posted by A-Unit
I don't believe decisions or live is entirely devoid of the coaxing by social elites who seek to control and profit by dumbing down its own citizens, and enslaving them to corporate work, adopted centuries ago in a fledgling America by young idealist utopian visionaries.
I agree with the direction you are going about it being ridiculous for society to impose such restrictions that are in conflict with nature, but by suggesting a conspiracy of 'social elites' you sound like a crusading college kid who doesn't have any perspective on life. I know you're smarter than that......
 

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Haha, quite the contrary STR8UP, I've done / do my research work. I would put forth that college kids today are more docile, more laid-back, less interest in the gov. and world than previous generations.

Oh sure, hoards of them can stand up and say "I'm not a conformed and I voted," but to me that's only you're God given rights. That doesn't scratch the surface of independent duty and personal responsibility.

To suggest that an elitist agenda is NOT present is to refute evidence BEFORE a case is made, which I'd suggest is just naive as a college kid so idealist he can't see the forrest for the trees. But this wasn't about just that specific situation, but rather that it was made LESS acceptable to date younger women.

Yes, women and men had it harder. Understandable. Factories, mines, manufacturing plants, etc. All very horrible working conditions where man was a mere industrial dehumanized robot. The changes from an agrarian society to an industrial one to a corporate / technological one has brought with it equal changes in home social life and education THAT MAY NOT BE CONCERT with the human spirit.

Hence the source of my post.

I was questioning the norm. Most of the respones entertained and swished around the idea, but you can see how brainwashed people are NOT to think outside of the box and question conventions. Which were, in fact, not conventions or social norms, but GUIDED social contexts upon which benefited society, and not necessarily the sexes.

But it wasn't early 1900's, it was also MID 1900's, as in 1950's, when my grandmother was getting married. She was engaged just after high school, some, during it. But as you can see, early marriage means no college, or late college. That's bad for the agenda of feminism that seeks to free women of their choices. Also, it's bad for the agenda because you in effect create separate family units. The larger one's family's unit becomes, the greater threat it is.

It should be evident that schools and colleges are nothing more than a civilized army supplying foder for corporations that require regular fulfillment of troops in the way of docile and obedient workers. Those who respect rule and bureacracy. 12-16 years of education DOES not make the individual independent. In fact, quite the opposite. THEY are more dependent than ever.

Answers come from the textbooks. Answers are given to the student. Teachers have the answer, so children come to see the link between age/authority and direction throughout life. Independent thought is RARELY exercised in basic companies, and less so in LARGE ones where efficiency and productivity reign. Questions are not asked, as they used to be. Instead, the theme of schooling is GIVE answers, from some unknown source. ALL courses of study are the same, unless you attend private school.

My local H.S. has 5,000 kids, all learning the same thing, from the same people, who will inevitably have very similar lives. At the very least, kids DO NOT study what it is they love at a young age, so their ultimate pursuits of pleasure are stymied by some 20 years, until they realize in mid-life that they wished they'd studied what it is they love. Should that LOVE turn out to NOT be profitable (which is highly unlikely), at least they have the age, maturity, and drive to re-tool and re-train and acquire a better paying career.

Beginning a family young is counter to THIS whole process, because if kids married young, if they followed pursuits much younger, competition within the US would be high, diminishing profitability for companies. IN addition, kids wouldn't go to college, so they'd be more likely to express their own thoughts. If family, feelings, friends, and personal pursuits were ABOVE the social goal of a utopia, then people wouldn't CONSUME as much. The national savings rate of -2% (which implies a 2% borrowing instead of any savings) would improve, dramatically. But as of now, consumption, partying, materialism takes the place of family, friends, and personal pursuits because the splicing-up of the home network which the individual seeks.


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Kids were forced to grow up faster back in the day. There wasn't washing machines, vacuum cleaners, microwaves and the like. Children were raised to be more mature and responsible out of necessity, not because it was preferrable.

Times have changed and so has the maturity level and level of preparedness for adult issues. A 15 year old back then had to work hard and help the family unit function...they had no choice. A 15 year old now is not anywhere near as mature or prepared to be an adult as it was so long ago.

You still see kids at younger ages getting married and having kids and some of the less developed countries...and it's out of necessity.

It's wrong for a much older man to mess with an underage girl because she is just a kid...she's NOT prepared to handle the things a teenage girl was back when girls that age used to marry and have children so young.

That's what makes it wrong...and that's why the laws were made to reflect those changes.
 

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Ok, makes sense. I was bringing up the topic as table talk.

I realize people were MORE mature back then at younger ages, almost negating any possibility of an OLD-YOUNG relationship NOW. However, to me, that was an engineered situation, and not one in which it just HAPPENED naturally.

As stated above, to me, it was to effect the disintegration of the family unit, which is easily possible when parents are rarely home, divorces are the norm, and promiscuous sex is common place.

Funny thing is, girls have sex UNDER 17 all the time, and a good % of them become pregnant. Were this an old man, assuming she chose him, say 25, or 30, she'd at least have HIS experience and years, and even home. Instead, she has another 16 or 17 year wet-behind-the-ears punk to take care of her.

I recall a case in the midwest on the cover of Time, in which a kid 18 impregnated a 12 year old girl. Foolish. Stupid. But it happened. The mother was hurt at first, but ok after. They went over the boarded and were married. Now they're 15 and 21, and a the state attorney wants to lock the kid up, even though the mother is ok with it. What does locking the guy up, do? Uhhh, well, it cuts off income, and puts the burdern on the state. Probably prevents him getting decent jobs. And ensures the mother that she doesn't have his father and husbandly support.

It's a case so fawked up like which drives me crazy.

The supposition of this AGE thing is that the girls under 14 or so are GOOD girls. How many guys here, show of hands, CAN SAY THAT?

I'm not advocating we NEED it, but what is being supposed is that the law prevents pedophiles. It doesn't. There's pedophiles caught all the time. Are we saying there'd be MORE? Does the law condone sex between minors?

No.
No.
And No.

First, it supposes the girl or guy would immediately engage in sex with people much older than they are.
Second, it supposes men would prey on such girls.
Third, it supposes kids at the age can't make such decisions, when in fact they do it now, everyday with young guys and girls.


But you pointed out a HUGE piece of point here wyldfire...

Times have changed and so has the maturity level and level of preparedness for adult issues. A 15 year old back then had to work hard and help the family unit function...they had no choice. A 15 year old now is not anywhere near as mature or prepared to be an adult as it was so long ago.

THAT is the missing piece to the puzzle that I was tring to get people to see. Maturity has declined, but the laws push the age forward, yet people engage in sex YOUNGER, somewhat illegaly. We claim social progress, more schooling, yet maturity has, according to wyldfire, DECLINED. Why is that? Should we be concerned?

For those here who see it, know it, and FEEL mature, I'm sure you don't care. I do. Just because that's who I am.

I recall when I was like 8, I helped my father clean and work on a property owned him and his siblings. Just a rental property, but we'd go in the winter, summer, fall, and spring and do yard work ALL day. We'd get paid for it, probably market wages. Get some good food and breaks. But BOY did we learn alot. We learned to get dirty. The pride in doing a good job. The self-sufficiency of doing our own work. HOW yard work is done. How to care for a home. How to work. What work is. The pride of making money through our efforts. Etc. A tremendous experience. Later in life, I worked at age 15 for a driving range getting balls in the field. I was paid $6/hr, and was up at 5am.

Working YOUNG humbled me. I put in my time and experience. I know ALOT of college guys and girls (girls more so) who NEVER had a real job, even when they were young. Never paid taxes. Don't even realize you have to. They wouldn't bow down to supermarkets or shoe stores or malls, and work a little, and struggle, and work on days they didn't want to, just to pay for the stuff they want. I feel if MORE girls didn, this super demand for equality WOULD vanish. Because young girls who "play sports" and don't work, would appreciate what their HS and college boyfriends ACTUALLY pay for. And then, after college, they wouldn't be demanding 50k+ for their 40k/yr degree, without having experience. And to me, hiring people like that with only book experience PROVES that colleges are just churning out academic foder for corporations, because they're buying the degree, NOT the person.



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well for sex to be "illegal" it has to be with someone of legal age having sex with someone of illegal age.

But for the most part I do agree with the laws!

Are you suggesting that someone your age couldn't easily manipulate a 13 yo into doing something that she might not really want to do.

Also you somewhat suggested that by children staying in school it some how made them immature. So are you saying that we would be better off as a society if we were to make them start some apprenticeship at a very young age, never really teaching them to read or write?

Do you think that the technology that we're using right now would have been here if it weren't for the laws that outlawed child labor? Thats the message that I get from you...that we would be at a better spot in our civilization if we hadn't made children go to school.
 

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Why it's illegal and wrong for an adult to have sex with a minor...

Because the emotional maturity in minors has declined so drastically, if an adult engages in sexual activity with a minor it IS predatory...the adult IS taking advantage, period. And no, it doesn't matter if the kid is already sexually active. Being sexually active does NOT make a person emotionally mature. It doesn't make them able to handle pregnancy or marriage or a relationship. The laws reflect this truth. Now, that doesn't mean it's abnormal for a guy to be attracted to a teenage girl that looks physically like an adult woman...he can't help that. However, acting on it is what is wrong, predatory and unacceptable in THIS country and many others. The only places it's acceptable is where children have to grow up fast out of necessity. Their societies reflect that in the age of marriage and child bearing. It's not acceptable in the US because our society embraces allowing children be children for as long as possible. The mentality and maturity is extremely different.
 

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He is a funny god isnt he?

makes a woman physically able to have sex.....produces hormones both in the man and women to want to have sex.......but not the "emotional" capacity.

Therefore if a 15 year old "girl" with breasts the size of texas seduces a 20 year old Man and they have sex (which her hormones and his are telling them to do). He gets 20 years! cause he is a "PREDITOR" (according to wyldfyre)
 
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