"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Ive been dating a Chinese girl for the past two three weeks. I gamed her as I normally do and she responded very positively, and she even threw me the expected sh*ttests. I want her as a main plate. I am not treating her any different than any other woman.

Are there any particulars that i need to know about them? Anything that sets them apart from the rest? Anything i should be doing differently?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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What do you mean by saying naggy? Naggy as in clingy?
 

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I dated a Chinese chick for a bit and never felt it necessary to treat her different from other women
 

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I am trying to maintain frame as good as I can.

For example, she was always late in the dates.. at some point we had arranged a date where we will cook food together. She was 30 minutes late and I was hungry so I cooked and eaten by myself and texted her to not bother to come.

She replied back after 10 minutes with a series of texts apologising etc and asking me whether she could come now. I told her no as I have made plans (bull****.. I was on netflix) and if she wants to come in a couple of hours. She came one time and from then onwards she is never more than 3-4 minutes late.

but.. I would do that to any girl.. not only Asian.. I seriously try to not take bull**** from any girl.
 

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tehk her ow fo sushi and din read fortune cookie and mak lotta sechsy time!
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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I've been seeing an Asian chick for a week now. You can dominate them so easily, but be aware of the **** tests.

So far, I've had
1. are you a player?
2. do you want commitment?
3. have you ever lived with a partner?
4. what makes you so special?
5. how many real girlfriends have you had?
6. is this a one night stand?
7. have you ever had a one night stand?
-the list goes on and on

Best way to get around this was to be completely indifferent and redirect the tests to her, or rip her clothes off.

Dat tiny Asian female frame doe
 

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Icegreen said:
I've been seeing an Asian chick for a week now. You can dominate them so easily, but be aware of the **** tests.

So far, I've had
1. are you a player?
2. do you want commitment?
3. have you ever lived with a partner?
4. what makes you so special?
5. how many real girlfriends have you had?
6. is this a one night stand?
7. have you ever had a one night stand?
-the list goes on and on

Best way to get around this was to be completely indifferent and redirect the tests to her, or rip her clothes off.

Dat tiny Asian female frame doe
So far I had 1, 2, 5, 6, 7 and ofcourse the do you miss me?

I either agree and amplify to all and try to mix truth and exaggeration.. or simply ignore them.

skinnyguy said:
Are you white?
Yes I am white. Does my race plays a role?
 

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Yes I am white. Does my race plays a role?
asian girls love white men.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Call her on it. That's what i did recently. I ripped her for being a mummys girl and a moaney shy girl. BUT i did it in a way that was double-edged by saying that she was stronger than all that and that if she just have fun then she'd be able to let it all go.

This Asian knows I am a therapist so wants my professional opinion without having to pay for it, and this is on a date! So, acknowledge whatever it is she is moaning about, then shut it down.

The boundary is like a contract which you must get her to contribute to and agree with. Mine went like this:
We're not allowed to talk about (x) else we have to do shots.
No ex boyfriends or work talk.
Fun only.

Worked pretty well. I had a blast and she ended up breaking the contract (which was really just a game which initiated playful banter) so the evening can be contained but it has to be collaborative and agree din a playful way else it will just come across as you being all weird and domineering.
 

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Icegreen said:
1. are you a player?
2. do you want commitment?
3. have you ever lived with a partner?
4. what makes you so special?
5. how many real girlfriends have you had?
6. is this a one night stand?
7. have you ever had a one night stand?
-the list goes on and on
1. I play guitar!
2. Yes I love commitment, there's 10 of them isn't there, oops thats commandments
3. Yes
4. So you think I am special? I knew you thought so I can see it in your eyes.
5. What, not including the blow-up dolls?
6. Have you ever tried to stand for one night?
7. Explain to me what that is since you are one thinking about it? (in a jokey voice...I dont think i can respect you now) its over.:crazy:
 

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Listen up yo. If you are getting interviewed it means you need to switch gears and call her on her serious attitude, it's just boring for first dates.
If i wanted to put on my favourite shirt and aftershave to come to a bar and get grilled like **** I would have hanged myself beforehand.
 

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Id say 7.5/8 and FOB.

I gamed her as normal (kino, dance, 1st date closed with kiss, sex on 5th date). But I really like her.. she is really different as she is feminine as fvck and she is not bitsy. Also, she gives me space and let me do my things etc. So far so good but I have to maintain frame.
 

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Much like any other type of girls, with asians you have to be the man even more - no chumping it. It must come from the very strong patriarchal family that many of these girls are raised in. Hence they expect a man to be a man.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Thanks a lot for the writeup man! I will update with news and feed back to the collective knowledge on how to deal with these kind of chicks.
 
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